BigHarold Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 Is it crazy to record things your significant other says in order to monitor the direction of the relationship? Sometimes, people say things over time that gives and idea of what they really want out of a relationship. 1
No_Go Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 Not crazy, I love statistics, trends etc, and I admit I've done relationship "monitoring". As any other analysis it is in the hands of the analyst to extract an unbiased trend Is it crazy to record things your significant other says in order to monitor the direction of the relationship? Sometimes, people say things over time that gives and idea of what they really want out of a relationship. 1
Kamille Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 Is it crazy to record things your significant other says in order to monitor the direction of the relationship? Sometimes, people say things over time that gives and idea of what they really want out of a relationship. Record as in secretly tape what they are saying? That would be crazy and disrespectful. If you have to record someone in order to build trust, then there's a deeper issue, either on your side or theirs. 1
LoveRefreshed Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 I've been in some arguments with girlfriends where I wished I could play back what they said at a later date. Sadly, I've never done this, but hell, it could've resolved some fights. 1
empresario Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 That's simply ensuring your relationship goals are still in line long-term. Although I suppose you didn't mention what you're tallying. If you're writing down every time she wants pizza because you want to know if her metabolism drop later in life is going to screw you over...that's a bit rude. 1
No_Go Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 Haha, when I read it, I thought the OP meant record TRENDS in the relationship, not conversations The later is scary and borderline abusive. Record as in secretly tape what they are saying? That would be crazy and disrespectful. If you have to record someone in order to build trust, then there's a deeper issue, either on your side or theirs. 1
Satu Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 You might find it more useful to keep a journal about your own thoughts, feelings and reflections. Self-knowledge is the key to understanding yourself and others. 2
Kamille Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 I've been in some arguments with girlfriends where I wished I could play back what they said at a later date. Sadly, I've never done this, but hell, it could've resolved some fights. A friend's wife did that to him once. They are now divorced, and yes, the replaying of the conversation was key in the devolution of their mariage. Not to mention, they still disagreed about what the conversation meant, recorded or not. 1
LoveRefreshed Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 A friend's wife did that to him once. They are now divorced, and yes, the replaying of the conversation was key in the devolution of their mariage. Not to mention, they still disagreed about what the conversation meant, recorded or not. Hahah, sociopaths continue to argue despite logical evidence against themselves. Probably better their relationship ended anyway. I would never do this, but sometimes I wish I had a stenographer following me around. 1
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