emerald86 Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 When I'm around a guy I like, I become very nervous, especially if I get some indication that the guy likes me back. There's this guy that I've been liking for many months now, and I've been seeing more of him recently. We always hang out in a group of people, but he's done some things that just made me wonder if he also feels the same way. For example, he teases me more than he teases anybody else, and multiple times, I've caught him staring at me. When this guy talks to me, I try my best to make the conversation interesting but I can feel my body becoming tense and my face turning very red. There are times when I completely avoid eye contact with him because I'm just too scared to look him in the eye. When we're with a group of people, I sometimes hardly say anything for fear of saying something stupid in front of him. One day he grabbed my hand out of nowhere, and I totally froze. My body must've gone completely numb and I think he could tell. I know I have it bad for this guy, but I don't want to feel so nervous when I'm around him. A lot of people become bubbly when they're around people they like, but I am exactly the opposite--I avoid him because I'm too afraid to talk to him. How can I relax around him? I had this exact same problem with my ex. I thought I've changed since then, but I guess not. I am a fairly shy person, but when this guy isn't there, I can actually be myself around other people and have fun.
Jj66 Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 I was that way when I was a teenager. I guess I was worried about doing something that would make her not like me. When I finally realized that I just need to be myself it was easier to relax. If they do not like you when you are being yourself you are better off without them. And if they do like you for being yourself it's a huge win. So either way you win by having someone cool in your life or win by avoiding someone who would have been bad for you in the long run. Since it's a win-win situation, what is the point of worrying about the outcome. This will not be the last guy who likes you so try not to get too invested in the outcome with this particular guy.
Waynester Posted August 21, 2015 Posted August 21, 2015 Everybody gets nervous when they are with someone they like, or dating for the first time.. So you are not alone in this. If this guy likes you, and I think he does..he is just as nervous at approaching you, the only difference is, he has more control over those nerves. This fear of saying something stupid, your body freezing etc..all happens in the mind. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to try relaxing your mind, free it from the panic scenario, take some deep breaths. Remember, we are all human, we all feel fear and nervousness. Relax, go with the moment when it happens. You'll be fine.
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