bebegal Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 I have been dating(we are possibly in a relationship).. this guy for a month. (it was never made offficial but if someone calls hell be like is that your other boyfriend...and say things frequ. like that) In the beginning we saw each other all the time..it was so easy and great. But now he seems to be putting his life back together..I mean putting me on hold as he has work that is backed up, etc... We live 15 minutes from each other and we are both off tonight and tom... but he says he is unable to hang out he needs to work (then I work thurs fri and sat night). He said we will go out sunday night. I just want to know if this is a normal transition after dating(and seeing each other abotu 4 times a wk) to seeing each other maybe two. I have had a year full of relationships that have failed and so Im paranoid(he doesnt know this--I am trying to act really cool about it and tell himIm going out wiht friends) its to early to talk about feelings etc, after just a month as someone once said if you wait it out all of your questions will be answered. Just wondering if any of you have experience where it does work out but the guy does begin to pull back ( he does call everyday and has a very demanding job).. or is this another relationship headed toward the dumps....
Merin Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Try not to over~think this.. IME the start of a new relationship is just like this.. you spend so much time together, can't get enough of one another, talk all the time on the phone when you *gasp* actually have to leave for work LOL! You hang on every word and then commiserate with your GF's on what he might have meant when he said *Insert what he said here* and all that is so great and feels sooooo good! BUT LOL there comes a time when you've got to get other things done that you've been neglecting since you've met this amazing person.. and thats okay too! It's just the progression of things.. you start to reach more of a comfort level in the relationship and find balance. It doesn't sound as if your new Guy is blowing you off.. he's just found things that he hasn't gotten to since he met an amazing Girl (You!) seems that he's still making time for you and I know you're doing the right thing at this time in not trying to guilt him or seem upset by this. Hang in there honey and enjoy your relationship where it is right now
Author bebegal Posted May 11, 2005 Author Posted May 11, 2005 merin- Thanks I truly hope this is the case. I wanted to know how you are doing as well. I have been away from the love shack for a couple weeks... Thanks for your kind words
Merin Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by bebegal merin- Thanks I truly hope this is the case. I wanted to know how you are doing as well. I have been away from the love shack for a couple weeks... Thanks for your kind words You're Welcome Sista I'm sure this is the case.. be cool, don't stress LOL it's hard I know but I don't see cause for alarm yet... I'm doing great, thanks for asking
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