ridinbikes247 Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 i just sort have gotten out of relansionship of only 2 months but it was prolly one of the best girls ive ever been with, she was sexy, smart, honest and all. but i guess i was to nice and one night she took advantage and she met a new guy behind my club after 2 months and didnt bother to tell me untill i caught her doing it behind wendys in the parking lot last weekend , "read my thread in breaking up"...well my friends were behind me and seen what happend when i seen them and i was just speechless, so my friend had a girl in his phone and he hooked me up with her cause i was totally depressed...well weve hung out now for like 3 days and i think shes looking to hook up with someone and i thought i was to but after what happend i really dont know where im at right now...im soppused to take her to the beach this weekend for about 4 days/nights and now im having 2nd thoughts on it too....i didnt know how to be nice and tell her that im not ready to really date around right yet, summers comin up and all my friends are gettin out of college and after what happend to the last chick i really dont wanna start seeing a nuther chick yet, but i think she thinks i am and i dont want to just stop talkin to her .... i want to be nice and tell her this but i dont want to seem like a jerk that has just lead her to belive i was ready... if anyone undertsands what i just wrote please help ....
Artscrafter Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 If you're not ready to start dating again because you've had a bad breakup too recently, just tell her that. If you tell her about it openly and before anything serious starts to develop, she can't accuse you of leading her on. On the contrary, she'll probably respect you more for being honest about it. That doesn't guarantee that she'll want to keep seeing you as friends or still be there when you're ready again, but if not then it wasn't the time for it anyway.
RecordProducer Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 No matter in which way you let her know that you're not ready, you will lose her. Why don't you just go and have fun? Ya know, whenever I don't feel like going somewhere, it turns out to be great. Go! You've got nothing to lose. You're two adults who will have fun. If you feel the same when you get there then let her know that you might want to postpone the sexual part and explain her how you feel. If you just cancel the trip you'll never have her back. You have to move on and continue to live your life. Get the ex out of your head. What are you going to accomplish by sitting at home and thinking about her?
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