We were seeing each other, gave me the "just friends" speech, I dumped her and now...

[GuskeGee]

I've been dating this girl for over a month now. We met through mutual friends, and we hit it off from the get-go.

 

In just a few weeks, she's become good friends with my gay brother, and when we don't date, we meet at parties and stuff like that.

 

Anyways, I enjoy spending time with her. HOWEVER, three days ago we met and everything was fine - like nothing was wrong. The following day our mutual friend tells me she confessed she's not ready for a serious relationship right now and just wants to be friends. I was like WTF?

 

I met with her that night, she told me the same thing and I told her right away that I have enough friends and that I'm not in it for that. I broke it off on the spot! She was extremely sad and stayed at our mutual friends house and couldn't fall asleep and just talked about this all night long.

 

I went out for a drink and had a blast. I felt pretty good with my decision the day after, but today I'm confused and sad and I miss her already.

 

I told her we shouldn't be seeing each other again, but both of us forgot about a B-day this friday that we're both attending... at MY place (I live with a guy that's VERY good friends with her and I'm very good friends with him).

 

WTF should I do now?

[Gaeta]

I don't see the problem. You're all adults. Attend the birthday and be civil to each other.

[Zippy2000]

You`ve finished with her. I hate the word "dump". So if your now friedns with her then just be a FRIEND to her.

 

Do not treat her with priority nor any different but just a friend. Maybe in time she will then like you. Happened to me when a girl said she just wanted to be friends but we still kept in touch and she went through like 3 boyfriends. Two who cheated on her only for her to then ask me out! Have to wait 4 years though! LOL

 

Good luck.

[d0nnivain]

It was a month. Be polite to her at the B-day party. If you like make it clear that you remain open to dating her but she has to want to be in a relationship. Otherwise, ignore her all night. Perhaps she will decide she can't come since it's at your house or she'll at least go home early. Don't chase her around the party & don't give in to temptation to make out with her or have sex.

[HereNorThere]

Whatever you do, don't let her make you an option. You have to convince her that ship has sailed or otherwise she'll just keep you on the line "just in case."

 

Doing ANYTHING that makes you look needy, jealous, etc. is just going to hurt you in the long run.

 

Remember, people want what they can't have. It sounds to me like you came on way to strong at first and killed her attraction. Don't keep doing it by throwing little fits because you didn't get your way.