raid9 Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 In reality i make good amount of money which I don't really boast to anyone(not even my parents) as i dont want anyone to see me as a rich person and not look at my personality. Only few people know how much i make. So i am in a relationship now and I have been telling my girl that I dont make much(enough to survive) and she still loves me. I do occasionally gift her small things which keeps her happy. However I am hiding a huge thing from her that i am actually rich Am I right in hiding it from her? I love her a lot. I dont want her to become money minded later on and see me just because I have money to support her PS: She also works at a normal job and makes enough to survive 2 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 Relationships based on a lie are not good, whatever that lie is. YOU are treating her like a she is a gold digger and that is NOT going to go down well when she finds out if she is a decent person. It may even be a deal-breaker, as you obviously think she would be after your money and you did not trust her with the truth. Of course if she is a gold digger, she will be overjoyed at the news. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 yes, we all understand you. all of us here at LS are all millionaires also. we never told our partners. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 (edited) nothing wrong with keeping your financial information to yourself, whatever it may be, until you become serious with someone........but don't lie about it....you've made a mistake telling her you don't make much.......if you live simply I doubt she would have guessed you're actually wealthy so there really was no need to lie about it....that would be a deal breaker for me (the lies) unless you came to me and confessed.....you could still confess without telling her you're wealthy, just tell her you minimized your income because you want to be loved for yourself..... Edited August 20, 2015 by LivingWaterPlease 1 Link to post Share on other sites
joeLove Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 Maybe she actually knows, but won't tell you? Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 I don't understand why you would deliberately lie and say you don't make much. How did that conversation start? I can't imagine she said "so how much do you make" Link to post Share on other sites
MrBojangles Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 yes, we all understand you. all of us here at LS are all millionaires also. we never told our partners. Agreed! I too am filthy stinking rich, but the average person would never know it. OP I'd strongly recommend you never tell your girlfriend that you are Millionaire. If you do, she's going to quit her job and want to go on shopping sprees all day. Worse yet, are the lavish meals she will start to demand. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 The mistake is not that you haven't told her that you are a millionaire. Its telling her that you are broke. You have lied. Why on earth did you need to say anything at all? All you need to say is that you work hard and make enough. Thats all. For me you would be dumped quicker than hot cakes... For the simple reason that you have not been honest. I am not rich. I make enough, I have a philanthropic nature, but if you had lied to me like that then you would have some serious making up to do before I could ever trust you again. And no it would not involve you spending your money on me. Why on earth can't you just be yourself as you are? You don't have to tell everyone everything, you don't have to go into full detail, but why lie? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 No, you are not right in lying to her. I could understand not disclosing exactly how much you make in the beginning stages of a relationship, but you could have said you are comfortable or financially secure. What you told her is a lie, based on the assumption that she isn't deep enough to look beyond your bank account and appreciate who you really are. I would not be very happy about that, if I were her. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 20, 2015 Share Posted August 20, 2015 I would not care about you being rich and not telling me. One day I would learn though as everything comes out in the open eventually. What would turn me off though is that you are rich and never helped your parents. That is not the kind of human being I want to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
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