downsouthgeorgiagirl Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 My guy and I have been dating since Feb 2015. We hit it off and things were great. He was everything I was looking for. He made me feel loved and wanted. We talked, text and Skype daily. We see each other every weekend do to him having 2 jobs. During the first few months things were wonderful, we meet each other families, we took a vacation and talked about being exclusive and not wanting to date anyone else. All was good until about a month ago. He started to pull back. At first I didn't worry much about it b/c it happens. But then his behaviors changed. He stopped calling like he once did, he stopped texting so much during the day. I picked up on this but I continued my normal routine. I used to send pics and would get:love: or if I told him I missed him I would get miss you to babes but that changed. He would not respond or respond with a new conversation. I tried to put it out of my mind b/c when we were together things were still wonderful. Then 1 Sunday we were at my house and I cooked like I normally do but he was so occupied with his phone. I didn't really worry about it b/c that not me but I happen to walk over and notice it was a girl that had text him. I am still not very concerned until the following week I notice this same girl on his social media page. She comments or like on every post that he makes. Liking I am ok with and even some comments but when the comments are all the time this bothers me. She even comment handsome guy give me a call under a random sports post. I informed him that this bothered me and he deleted her comments. She then started commenting on very very old post. I found this out when I was to put a photo slideshow together for a bday party. I was like WTF, another comment under a pic that is almost 1 yr old. Then out the blue he tells me that he wants a lazy weekend where he does nothing alone. That was our 1st Saturday not being together since we meet. I was not happy but went along with it. I informed him that I was going to my parents for Sunday dinner and he wanted to come. Great, until I get to his house and 15 minutes in his phone vibrates and it is the same girl. He now post things about relationship, how it takes 2 to build a great and if only 1 person is trying it wont work or if you are only texting you not in a relationship. Under these post her comments are . He has not come back to me the way he was. He calls on the way to work, text through out the day, calls as soon as he leaves 1st job and before he goes to 2nd job. Things are back on track but I still feel some type of way. His social media post are now "you have to burn some bridges so that you cant cross them again" or you have to piss people off to hear how they really feel about you" not comments from this girl nor have I seen any texts. Am I over thinking this social media thing or could something have been going on? Since he is back to his normal self should I let it go or do we need to discuss this situation? I care deeply for this man & want this relationship to work but I don't want to be a fool
Jacob_Duluoz Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 He seems resentful that you intervened. You're not overthinking it. If you're not happy and you want it to work you need to discuss it. If it was working, you wouldn't be looking for answers on the internet.
angel.eyes Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 It may not have ended, just gone underground until you stop being so watchful and suspicious. (Justifiably so, I might add.) I would ask him in an inquisitive/curious tone about some of his social media comments. What prompted a particular posting, what bridges etc. Then transition into a discussion about this woman and try to figure out what was happening with them. She's still clearly the elephant in the room. Did you guys ever discuss her?
Author downsouthgeorgiagirl Posted August 20, 2015 Author Posted August 20, 2015 It may not have ended, just gone underground until you stop being so watchful and suspicious. (Justifiably so, I might add.) I would ask him in an inquisitive/curious tone about some of his social media comments. What prompted a particular posting, what bridges etc. Then transition into a discussion about this woman and try to figure out what was happening with them. She's still clearly the elephant in the room. Did you guys ever discuss her? No, we never discussed her upfront. I told him that I didn't like the comment she made & after he deleted i thought it was done until i saw the comments under old pics. I wasn't so concern with the text at first b/c I text male friends sometimes but it is totally innocent & I assumed his was also. I think if he didn't like it or wasn't entertaining it she wouldn't do it.
Author downsouthgeorgiagirl Posted August 20, 2015 Author Posted August 20, 2015 He seems resentful that you intervened. You're not overthinking it. If you're not happy and you want it to work you need to discuss it. If it was working, you wouldn't be looking for answers on the internet. Thanks, never thought he may resent me for stating how i felt but good advice
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