jyorks Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 So I got talking to this girl. Initially I was very laid back, wasn't getting my hopes up. Anyway she was really keen to meet. So last weekend she invites me round to hers for the evening. We got on really well instantly and there was mutual attraction, some good common ground between us. Within hour we ended up sleeping with each other. I didn't force it, or initiate it, it just sort happened. It was just one of those heat of the moment things. We then laid there chatting for a good couple of hours, and it was really nice, no TV, no film, just us talking about all sorts. It felt very natural. It really caught me off guard how much i liked her. I text her the following morning, saying that I had a really good time. She said she was glad i text, because she was worried i might just ditch her, which she said out the blue with no prompting from me. We carried on chatting, I said I want to take her on a second date somewhere, got it all planned, and she seemed keen. Wanted to show I wasn't just expecting to go round hers again. The day after this I didn't really hear from her, she had been out all day seeing family, fair enough, i get that. She sent me a message when she finally got in at like midnight when i was asleep saying sorry for her delayed reply and hoped i was ok etc. I replied the next day after work, the time when we normally talked, but then got nothing back from her at all. It's now been 24 hours+ since sending that message and I have got a little bits and pieces, but nowhere near what i was getting from her, like a proper conversation. She may well of been busy last night because she was off work, then she is at work today, but normally i would of got a message at some point by now. Do i drop her another message, or does it sound like its not worth it? I know it was only one date, and will drop it and move on, just i did see potential, more than i have with any girl in a long time and don't want to waste it
Qboro90 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Skip the day to day convos about nonsense and just send her a text either tomorrow or the following day if she hasn't replied or reached out by then. Ask her if she's down to get dinner or drinks this weekend and lock down a date and time that works best or suggest a day and time and let her adjust it if she's not available that day. Then just wait till you see her on the 2nd date to ask yourself these questions. She's not your gf so she's got no obligation to get back to you or text you regularly or in a certain manner. Don't start acting like her BF just because you had one fun night together.
Jules Dash Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Don't start acting like her BF just because you had one fun night together. This is really important. Like said above, call her and ask her out. If you get no more reply, just let it go and resist the temptation to analyze every single thing you may have done with your interaction with her that could have been wrong such as analyzing all of your text exchanges. 1
Zippy2000 Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 Hard to say especially I dont know her but one of the reasons why people go cold is they do like the chase. Once they have you its either not as exciting or its becuase they know they have you now so they are cooling off the chase. It doesnt mean shes no longer interested. It just takes time to find out what shes like. Another possible reason, and I use the word "possible" is she has flaked. Again we wont know until giving her more time. A lot of ladies change their minds. Its their provoctive. I know this as I gave my number to a lady once at her work. I managed to find out she had put on social media that "a customer" gave me his number only to find out she deleted it the next few days and ended up texting me. Whats changed? Maybe its also that you were quite laid back before and now you`ve picked up yopur game. Be like you were when you were more laid back and she may come round looking for you.
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