hugznkisses21 Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Ok im a bit upset about this. My bf's family is wonderful. They provide all they can for their kids, the treat me wonderfully etc. Now i think that they as a bit much from their kids as far as running errands and stuff but each family has its own way of deligating responsibility. Now in the past i have had a bit of trouble with this cause my dad is so laid back that he doesnt ask much from us and I was feeling that they were over barring and it was causeing me and my bf's LDR to be even more intturupted by life. Ok so it has been 2 years and things have worked theselves out nicely. I have decided to be less needy and understanding and he has decided to put his foot down a bit more and help them to realize he is older now and has a life outseid of being their children...he is an employee, a bf, a friend and so much more. Ok....now it bring me all to now. His mom. She is wonderful, caring.....etc but can be over bearing, dramatic and so much more. I know in her heart she wants the best for her kids and she wants to see they are being the best as well. BUT the drama!! She embellishes things quite a bit.....and she seems to be quite harsh on my bf. Now dont get me wrong....he loves me treats me great, tells me im beautiful and gives me hug kisses, I love u's the whole nine yards but can also be stubborn, insensitive at times, grumpy, moody and have an attitue to yet frustrated and stuff easily.....BUT dont do alot of testosterone breeds. Me on the other hand I can be very very sensitive, over thinker, and worrier so I take quite a bit of the blame for pushing issues causing him to get frustrated, or even yell sometimes. So back to him mom. Every now and then she gives it to him about EVERYTHING....."why r u moody, all u do is lie (i dont know where that one came from), you spend all the money u make yet owe me $80, " then this time she says to him you are soo moody u probably abuse your gf i know u do" I assume she meant verbally but i dont know. I was shocked. He felt terrible. That was uncalled for. He is a wonderful guy, has a big heart and treats me well....he would never hurt me....i have no idea why she said that but then again it is in her nature to take a grain of salt and just put it way over the edge. She said that its cause she knows I cry...well im a crier, Im super sensitive about everything since my mom past 6 years ago and my bf knows that and he also knows that he can be a jerk sometimes and we all know all guys can be. I think she may have said it like that to add drama to things cause he is stubborn and tunes her out alot but that wasnt nice at all. She cares very much for me and she care very much for him. I think that she know sometimes him frustrationa nd attitude sucks so I get a bit discouraged with him. She knows I love him, he loves me and I think she wants to see me marry her son but doesnt want him to act like an idoit and have me leave so she tries to scare him. I DONT KNOW. It makes me mad...but I did tell my bf he does need to work on being a bit more sensitive, thinking before he speaks and controlling him frustration or whatever. I love him, and his family but she is some major drama sometimes. My advice to him was......no thats not true but communicate more and u will have less furstration building up, and dont take people for graunted....treat her with a bit more respect cause i think he gets frustrated with teh drama and he ends up getting angry with her.
fever79 Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 I think the worst thing about this situation is that his mom is hurting him by saying things that aren't even true. It seems like she is having a hard time of letting him go and enjoy his own life. Why does he put up with it? Although she is his mother, he is now an adult and deserves to be treated with as much respect as she would any other person.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted May 11, 2005 Author Posted May 11, 2005 i know. dotn get me wrong she is a great person....and i was shicked she accused him of this but i think she goes to the extreme cause he can be stubborn and not listen to anything. He kinda was pissed she said that cause it isnt true. I know he does get a temper or can be insensitive or a jerk but all guys can be....i dont get it. I think its cause he lives under her roof, and she does it to feel in control.....he will live their till marrigae....his traditions in their background...I DONT KNOW as weirded out by this as u
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