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Can't find somebody I'm attracted too.


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All,

 

I've posted over the last 8 months various things with my ex, but now that I've been out dating I've run into an issue.

 

I'm a good looking, honest, funny, charming, successful guy, but I'm having a hard time finding somebody I'm physically attracted too. I go on dates with some really awesome women. There is nothing inherently wrong with them except I don't feel a chemistry and no real spark. Good looking women that are also smart, fun, and great to be around.

 

When things progress to a second or third date or sometimes sooner I can really tell that they are attracted to me, and are hinting on getting sexual I find myself just not really into them physically.

 

Up to my previous ex of 5 years I always dated young looking petite women. I'm very much turned on without much of a effort of them trying to look sexy. Everyone has their thing right?

 

Anyway I don't know what to do, my area doesn't lend itself to have the most fit women, and I focus on keeping my body in shape as well as my mind and finances.

 

I'm starting to feel like this is becoming an issue.

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It's a combo of things & one of the most weighty factors may be that you haven't fully healed yet & even though you have put yourself out there in the dating world you are not really ready.

 

I am one who needs that initial spark so I call offer is that if you don't feel it, you don't feel it & it probably won't grow over time so don't progress beyond at most the 2nd date if it's not working.

 

Maybe take a bit more time off before you try dating again, at least the rest of the summer.

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