EAH0709 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Hi all. I just need someone to bring me down off this cloud and tell me I am insane. I am 37 and have two children. I have been married twice. My first marriage, my husband passed away in an accident a year after we were married. My second (the father of my children) lasted for 7 years and ended after he cheated on me twice and therapy did not help. I have recently begun dating someone that I have been on several dates with, the last being last weekend, it was the entire weekend long. It's been about 8 weeks. I think I am in love with him. When I look at him it's totally butterflies and all. I count days til I see him again. And I am sad to admit, I never felt a connection quite like this before - even to the men I married. I loved them. But now I question if I knew what it really felt like. How pathetic is that? Or am I just in some state of euphoria right now, and it is all lust. Is it possible to love someone after two months? I have been divorced for 3 years, if that matters.
Vercetti Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I'm 36, wife is 46 . The same thing happened with us. Two years later and nothing has changed. Funny how could have so many experiences, then a first kiss could make you feel like a clunky teen. Nothing is wrong, this is normal for the very lucky. 3
fitnessfan365 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Having that butterfly infatuation feeling is pretty normal for the first 3-6 months. See if you still feel the same way after a few years. 4
TweetyGirl Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Those butterflies you feel are probably those intense overly lovey feeling you get at the beginning of a relationship. I don't think you have anything wrong with you and feeling like a teenager isn't all that bad.
jen1447 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Or am I just in some state of euphoria right now, and it is all lust. Guess you'll just have to find out. Enjoy the ride. 1
RecentChange Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Its scientifically known when we "fall" for someone, our body releases all sorts of chemicals that cause that euphoria, the "high" etc. And I do think it is possible to fall for someone that quickly. I had dated a number of men, had a few relationships (year+), but when I met my "partner" (using that because he is more than a boy friend, but we aren't married) - yes, it was like you describe, crazy like a school girl - and it was "fast" for him as well. I had never felt like that about anyone else. He said "I love you" just a few months in (could have been two or less, I am horrible of keeping track of these things!) - and he was SO NERVOUS to say it, because he thought it was too soon, too fast, and that I would freak and show him the door - but instead I said that I loved him too - which I do! We moved in together less than 6 months after we started dating. That was over 14 years ago. We have had some ups and downs over the years, but I still love him, he still loves me. I can LUST after someone - but I don't have those "school girl" feelings you describe - I have only had those for one guy.
JADIE Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Having that butterfly infatuation feeling is pretty normal for the first 3-6 months. See if you still feel the same way after a few years. We are almost 5 yrs out & I still get the butterflies pretty frequently....but we don't live together so maybe that has something to do with it. Even just hearing his voice can make my heart skip. I still feel like I'm 16 again when we meet up after not seeing each other for a couple days..it's crazy stuff! I'm 55, he's 62 and our sex life is great too. 1
RoseVille Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I think we're all looking for those butterflies in the beginning. Unless I feel giddy, I know it won't go anywhere.
Leigh 87 Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 The sad thing is, most people's don't even experience the butterfly stage. People say it is too Disny to be like an excitable school school and to fall hard and rsgwhr cast.
Author EAH0709 Posted August 20, 2015 Author Posted August 20, 2015 Thanks guys - my children were with their father last night, so he came over. I cooked dinner. I can't even focus at work today ha ha. Head in the clouds!!! He told me last night that "I make it very easy for him to fall for me..." so, hopefully, he feels the same. The next time I see him is next Monday. I'm already counting the days. I don't recall feeling this way. Ever.
Mrin Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 OP: I wrote this last year when I met my GF. Soooo sugary sappy but still fun. 13 At 42 years, I’m 13 again, Head in the clouds, Don’t know where to begin, The sound of my name, Leapt from her tongue, Caresses my ears, My heart feels so young, The butterfly wings, Inside of me, Flutter hither and fro, Whispers of glee, Laughing too loud, My brain feels like mush, Attempting to talk, Trying not to gush, Necking in the park, Kisses like wine, Time stands still, Shivers my spine, At 42 years, I’ve opened a door, Astonished to find, I’m a kid once more.
Vercetti Posted August 20, 2015 Posted August 20, 2015 I do agree with those that speak of feelings because early stage of relationship, you know before have first fight. Only there is something different that exists. I had relationships before my ice, was even married before. First date, kiss, anything with others did not come close to what hit me at 36. Perhaps it's just some extreme feedback loop of science...it's not simple as someone new automatic x. If so this board would be flooded with these topics, not I paid for dinner three times he paid twice and got a cab is he cheap topics
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