Jhackm29 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 My ex who I had NC with for over a year texted me. It was very business like " my name I'm so sorry to bother you but I found some of your dads thing in his wallet not sure how I wound up with it or if you want it ?? Her name"- end message. That was Monday night I have not texted back it seems odd to text me now about this. My father passed away years ago. We were together for 12 years until she left me for a guy she met online any advice would be great is there a back motive or am I over thinking should I just ignore and continue moving forwArd I do miss her as a friend. I'm still hurt by how she treated me towards the end and break up like I was trash and being traded in for a new man.
Gus Grimly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 My question is: do you want to retrieve your possessions? If so ask her nicely if she would mail it to you if cost is reasonable. If you don't care about it, just ignore the text and continue onward. She treated you poorly, she doesn't ever deserve a response. So don't feel bad by ignoring her. I'm sure she'd do the same. You'll be just fine.
aloneinaz Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 She's just throwing a baited hook out there to see if you'll bite. Basically, she's feeling you out. If you do bite on it, she'll fire more texts like "how ya been" or "how's things going".. If she didn't want to contact or engage with you, she would of simply mailed those items to you w/a note. Maybe things are not all rosy with the guy she kicked you to the curb for. She's looking to see if she possibly has a back up plan in case it ends or ended. Since you're not over her or how she treated you (which was horrible), you probably should just ignore her.
mightycpa Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 If your father died, and she has some memento that she thinks may mean something to you, then you have to consider that this could be a gesture of decency on her part and nothing more. If I found something of your dead father's in my belongings, I'd contact you to see if you want it. She probably should have just sent it to you, whether you want it or not. So there's your solution. If you want it back, then send her a self-addressed, stamped box into which a wallet will fit. Otherwise, forget about it. 1
StrangerThanFiction Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I'm wondering if maybe things with the guy she left you for aren't working out so she's casting her line out to see if you're still on the backburner. I responded to an ex who left me for someone else and it did not end well. In fact he left me for the same chick again after we got back together. So speaking from experience, don't do it. Ignore her. Talking to her will just bring back the pain.
Gus Grimly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 In fact he left me for the same chick again after we got back together. . Ouch, that's lame! After reading the other's posts, I agree, it's claymore mine waiting for you to trip it. Beware.
Author Jhackm29 Posted August 20, 2015 Author Posted August 20, 2015 The biggest problem is I do miss her and think about her daily. I wish things did not end so bitter and cold I felt like 12yrs ment nothing I was traded up. I still have questions but I've gave up trying to under stand. It hurts so much to think someone who was always there just gave up I had my faults but I tried to be a good man. I believe there is no problems between them. I decided not to reply though I feel horrible doing that if she was just trying to be kind.
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