Author Rko28 Posted August 25, 2015 Author Posted August 25, 2015 Don't know how this tinder crap works but from your interactions with the girl, I don't think she's interested. Starting to get that feeling too my friend. very much so.
Diezel Posted August 25, 2015 Posted August 25, 2015 Don't ask your mutual friend, unless you are in high school. 4
Author Rko28 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Don't ask your mutual friend, unless you are in high school. she actually asked me about her today in work. I said I hadnt heard from her after trying to plan a 2nd date and she cant believe it as she thought that we had a nice time and saying that shes not the type to just fade away like that as she would be straight up. Not sure if i should drop her one more text
Zippy2000 Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Not sure if you are going to drop her another text? Well don't. Sorry to be hard on you but that's another sign of someone who is insecure and needy. Sending texts like "Do I take that as a no about meeting up", gives the power to her and not you. Women like confident people. Sending more texts shows you lack confidence. She's very Luke warm with you at the moment. Give it time and let her come to you.
organizedchaos Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Not sure if you are going to drop her another text? Well don't. Sorry to be hard on you but that's another sign of someone who is insecure and needy. Sending texts like "Do I take that as a no about meeting up", gives the power to her and not you. Women like confident people. Sending more texts shows you lack confidence. She's very Luke warm with you at the moment. Give it time and let her come to you. Yeah, nothing builds attraction in a woman more than a text like that! Haha.
ivionthenet Posted August 26, 2015 Posted August 26, 2015 Ok, I know it is so hard.... just read this thread once all this madness about this chick fades away (it won't be long, give it a week or two) and see just how obvious the answers are to all your questions. I have just been through this same process. I don't meet people who I find attractive or interesting very often, in fact it very very very rarely happens like a few times a year. I don't do OD but I go out a lot. So I know how it feels when you finally meet someone you like and you go wow, this is great finally someone! Finally I can relate to this person! And you get carried away...yet when you are on the outside you know exactly what you are supposed to say or do to build a decent relationship with someone. You are independent and strong and feel prepared until that "special" someone comes along and you turn into a pile of emotional disaster. This is the piece of wisdom I got out of my last experience and I am hoping to break the cycle: "If you go thinking take your heart with you. If you go to love take your head with you. Love is empty without thinking, thinking hollow without love. (C. G. Jung) To me this has hit the nail on the head. Imagine if you could bring 1% rationale into your interaction with this girl. Imagine bringing in 50%. You would be at least half the man you are hahahaha (sorry don't take this the wrong way it's my sarcastic sense of humour) 1
Author Rko28 Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 Ok, I know it is so hard.... just read this thread once all this madness about this chick fades away (it won't be long, give it a week or two) and see just how obvious the answers are to all your questions. I have just been through this same process. I don't meet people who I find attractive or interesting very often, in fact it very very very rarely happens like a few times a year. I don't do OD but I go out a lot. So I know how it feels when you finally meet someone you like and you go wow, this is great finally someone! Finally I can relate to this person! And you get carried away...yet when you are on the outside you know exactly what you are supposed to say or do to build a decent relationship with someone. You are independent and strong and feel prepared until that "special" someone comes along and you turn into a pile of emotional disaster. This is the piece of wisdom I got out of my last experience and I am hoping to break the cycle: "If you go thinking take your heart with you. If you go to love take your head with you. Love is empty without thinking, thinking hollow without love. (C. G. Jung) To me this has hit the nail on the head. Imagine if you could bring 1% rationale into your interaction with this girl. Imagine bringing in 50%. You would be at least half the man you are hahahaha (sorry don't take this the wrong way it's my sarcastic sense of humour) Possibly one of the best and most sensible replies I've had on this forum. I know you're absolutely right, you sound just like me. Thanks for this message mate 1
Author Rko28 Posted August 28, 2015 Author Posted August 28, 2015 Just a quick update: After 2 days no contact from her after offering her thursday and friday to meet up curiosity got the better of me and i text lunch yesterday to see how her week was going. About 6 hours later I got a nice enough reply, lengthy and asking how mines been. I replied to her questions and said "right then date 2, when is it happening, obviously not tonight been that you didnt get back to me tut tut ;)" She replied asking what I meant about tonight, so i said about texting her but no reply about my suggestions, she denied getting the text and said her phone is playing up with texts and sending them takes a while etc but she didnt get it. Said shes got a charity night tonight so will be when im back off holiday. Could be a legit excuse as it was playing up friday before we met in that I didnt get a lot of messages off her before we met and she thought i was going to stand her up. Either way, I have a holiday to look forward to now and not holding out hope of seeing her again when I return.
RightThere Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Just a quick update: After 2 days no contact from her after offering her thursday and friday to meet up curiosity got the better of me and i text lunch yesterday to see how her week was going. About 6 hours later I got a nice enough reply, lengthy and asking how mines been. I replied to her questions and said "right then date 2, when is it happening, obviously not tonight been that you didnt get back to me tut tut ;)" She replied asking what I meant about tonight, so i said about texting her but no reply about my suggestions, she denied getting the text and said her phone is playing up with texts and sending them takes a while etc but she didnt get it. Said shes got a charity night tonight so will be when im back off holiday. Could be a legit excuse as it was playing up friday before we met in that I didnt get a lot of messages off her before we met and she thought i was going to stand her up. Either way, I have a holiday to look forward to now and not holding out hope of seeing her again when I return. I don't know how to make this clearer for you. She's not interested. You should stop contacting her. The sky is blue. These are all things that are very obvious to everyone else, so you need to wake up and see it. 1
Diezel Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 I replied to her questions and said "right then date 2, when is it happening, obviously not tonight been that you didnt get back to me tut tut ;)" I cringed so hard, I don't think I could possibly ever cringe again. Then I read that text again, and nope, I was wrong, I can cringe again. 3
martaldn Posted August 28, 2015 Posted August 28, 2015 Could be a legit excuse as it was playing up friday before we met in that I didnt get a lot of messages off her before we met and she thought i was going to stand her up. :rolleyes:
organizedchaos Posted August 29, 2015 Posted August 29, 2015 Just a quick update: After 2 days no contact from her after offering her thursday and friday to meet up curiosity got the better of me and i text lunch yesterday to see how her week was going. About 6 hours later I got a nice enough reply, lengthy and asking how mines been. I replied to her questions and said "right then date 2, when is it happening, obviously not tonight been that you didnt get back to me tut tut " She replied asking what I meant about tonight, so i said about texting her but no reply about my suggestions, she denied getting the text and said her phone is playing up with texts and sending them takes a while etc but she didnt get it. Said shes got a charity night tonight so will be when im back off holiday. Could be a legit excuse as it was playing up friday before we met in that I didnt get a lot of messages off her before we met and she thought i was going to stand her up. Either way, I have a holiday to look forward to now and not holding out hope of seeing her again when I return. Dude. You really need to learn how to build attraction. This is not it.
Author Rko28 Posted December 10, 2015 Author Posted December 10, 2015 yea this girl was just a massive douchebag really. Kept saying yes im up for another date but was always "busy" anyway another one in the "experience" pile. Why cant people just be honest?
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