justin15 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I feel so upset these days becoz of this girl... and I regretted everything I did with her that led to the current situation so the story began in Apr, we met in Tinder and after 2-3 weeks of casual chat, I got her number and we texted frequently everyday. Then we started dating, seeing each other at least once a week. Those were the happy days that I still remember..we went singing karaoke (we both like that so much), went doing massage, stayed in park and chatted for hours...and we slept 3-4 times. I was so stupid that I told her I like her at the very beginning....she said she also like me, but she has many concerns and asked me to give her sometimes. Well I didnt know when a girl saying this, I shouldn't keep asking or pushing....(I just know after reading a lot of dating articles recently). Instead, I was too emotional and told her that I was really into her.. and felt frustrated becoz of the relationship... She didnt fade me out immediately, in fact, I didn't feel anyway, we still kept texting, flirting, making jokes everyday. And 2 weeks ago,,,I brought up that relationship issue again...and this time she told me 'I feel pressurized to be honest'. And we had 2 more dating after she telling me this. I could see that she is no longer that interested in me..such as she didnt give any eye contact when we were chatting, she didnt initiate conversations... and 1 week ago, she started to reply my msg very late, like after 3-4 hrs, and she no longer makes joke/initiate topics (which she did at the very beginning). And now she didn't even reply my last message... I know i have been pushing her too much...I regretted now. I know probably I have to move on, as she seems not interested in me anymore. But I still like her...I duno if she will find me...maybe never. Should I text her again, pretending nth happened, and try to date her out?
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 The last thing you should do is keep reaching out to her. That is how you ruined this is in the 1st place. You are the guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. You pressed for what you wanted & failed to listen to what she wanted -- for you to slow down & back off. How on earth do you think more of the same, continuing to pressure her, will make this better? Let her go. Next time be more circumspect. Don't push as hard. When the other person says dial it back, do so.
Author justin15 Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 The last thing you should do is keep reaching out to her. That is how you ruined this is in the 1st place. You are the guy who wears his heart on his sleeve. You pressed for what you wanted & failed to listen to what she wanted -- for you to slow down & back off. How on earth do you think more of the same, continuing to pressure her, will make this better? Let her go. Next time be more circumspect. Don't push as hard. When the other person says dial it back, do so. regret now, now I know I have to learn all kinds of dating skills before dating another girl..
ZA Dater Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 regret now, now I know I have to learn all kinds of dating skills before dating another girl.. I think there is never anything wrong with going after what you want and showing that you want it. Living with the fact they don't want you...not sure how to easily live with that.
toml Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Shes not into you. If she liked you she would have said yes to a rship after all those dates regardless if you wore your heart on your sleeve. She said all those things to you cos she wasnt sure. You didnt push her away she was always going away. Wait till she meets a guy she wants to be in a rship with. Watch how she wont give him tje same bull**** excuses she gave you
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I think there is never anything wrong with going after what you want and showing that you want it. Living with the fact they don't want you...not sure how to easily live with that. The OP tried that already. Continuing to press this woman will get him a restraining order. Trying for what you want is wonderful. Refusing to take no for an answer creates problems.
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