CalvinM Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 (edited) Sunday I went on a first date with a lady I'd been talking to on pof. She was on holidays out of town, but quickly schedule a meeting for after she returned. We both live in the same city, she's 28, I'm 34. We went for beers, conversation was good, we were both laughing. She ordered us each a second beer when our firsts were finished, which I took as a good sign. After she came back from the bathroom, I motioned for her to come closer and gave her a quick kiss, she didn't pull away, she actually leaned closer, so I kissed her again. When we finished our second beers, I reached for the bill and she said "no, let me get it, it was your birthday a few days ago and I said I'd buy you a beer". I said "progressive, I'm impressed." She got closer and grabbed my hand and suggested we go for a walk. At a traffic light near where we were heading we stopped and I put my arm around her and have her another kiss, very subtle, not too long. We walked to a park where she suggested we sit down on a bench and she said "I'm not really a fan of pda, but this is nice." We kissed some more and I walked her to her car. She said she had a good time and suggested we see each other again. I'd sent her an article that basically said dating is either "**** yes" or its a no. The article is here if you'd like to read it - http://markmanson.net/f*ck-yes. She said she was a f*ck yes, I agreed. She did however say "I'm pretty busy with work. I love my job and that's not going to change. It's been a point of contention in the past, I'm hoping it won't be for us." I told her I've been pretty busy lately too, but that I had fun with her and was willing to see where things go. She said something like "ok, good." She gave me another really nice full mouth kiss, a little tongue and a hug, then we parted ways. A few hours later she sent a text: "I had a really good time, thanks for a great afternoon." I told her I had fun too. Then she said "unfortunately I don't think we should see each other again." I was floored. Easily one of the best dates I've been on. I pressed further and she said "you're a really great guy and I had a lot of fun, but I really want to feel weak in the knees." I thanked her for her honesty and that was it. Edited August 19, 2015 by CalvinM
yxalitis Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Sounds like she wanted a fling...and you didn't bite (fair enough, not saying you're at fault). I have encountered this once or twice before, hard to believe, but sometimes the woman only wants a casual f uck.
Author CalvinM Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 She really didn't seem like the type, but it sucks if that's true.
yxalitis Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 She really didn't seem like the type, but it sucks if that's true. You think you can see the "type" really...?
Author CalvinM Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 Yes, I do. Generally they're very forward.
Author CalvinM Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 Assuming you're right, is it too late to re-engage? And if not, how do I slide back in there?
Omei Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 You don't she sent her farewell text already. Whatever she wanted from you if it was casual sex the time to "take her" by surprise that moment is over and contacting her again to plan something wont have her "weak in the knees" Or by that comment it could of ment that shes wanting to meet someone she instantly gos crazy for ? Who knows.
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