dragonwalker Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 So I've been dating this girl for about a month and a half now and we see each other about once a week. When we don't meet for a date we usually text about every other day briefly about random things sometimes a bit longer. This may be petty but I haven't yet felt comfortable being friends with her on facebook. Not because I have anything bad to hide but rather I'm not really active on facebook on all and a lot of the stuff on there is years old. I imagine she probably keeps her fairly up to date since she is somewhat into the social media stuff. She hasn't sent a friend request either. Do you think I should send a request over or just ignore it because my own facebook doesn't really share anything particularly good or flattering about me? However I think maybe I might gain some more insight to the person she is once we are friends online.
PegNosePete Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I think maybe I might gain some more insight to the person she is once we are friends online. You mean, you can totally stalk her, check out her exes, look up everything she has posted for the last 5 years...? I'm the same as you, I keep my facebook friends limited to people I know well in real life. I don't want to share my holiday pics from 5 years ago with any old person I meet or date. If your facebook is a bit unflattering then I would recommend take half an hour to clean it up, though. Delete old or bad pics or rude comments. Try to get nice profile and cover pics. Don't share too much information such as your phone number, personal details, work information or relationship status, and make sure information that you do share is up to date. I would send her a friends request once you're gf and bf. 1
Jj66 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I generally don't connect on FB with people I'm dating until I'm ready to introduce her to family and friends. I would wait for her to send a request but in the meantime I would do some Facebook housekeeping if any is needed. 2
Diezel Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 If you don't use it, why request her? Just don't request her. 3
Yogagirl565 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I hold off on accepting friend requests. It gives my date instant access to all of my life. I'd rather take my time getting to know someone in person rather than from behind the screen.
Vercetti Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Just have a relationship in reality...let Facebook be it's own trashcan for any obtuse to burn time on.
losangelena Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Do you think I should send a request over or just ignore it because my own facebook doesn't really share anything particularly good or flattering about me? However I think maybe I might gain some more insight to the person she is once we are friends online. Correct me if I'm wrong, but they way I understand your post, you're saying you'd rather she NOT see your past FB activity because it's outdated and may not reflect on the kind of person you are now, but you think friending her will give you some insight into the kind of person she is? Is it just me, or is there a double standard here?
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