stayclassi Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I've decided I'm stronger alone. I just can't wait to fill my soul in my studies and finally accomplish something & not have to put a relationship first. My boyfriend and I of 3 years have mutually decided to walk away from one another. Not because we don't want to be with eachother but because sometimes we have to put ourselves first. In all honesty the thing that made me want to let go the most is the fact that he wouldn't let me meet his co workers who He called friends. You see we were in a long distance relationship for 2 years and I've met his whole family, even close friends, and best friends. Basically everyone who was important to him. Now that he moved in with me for a year he was always concerned about me not meeting his friends here in Cali. It always made me skeptical to why. There has been many occurrences where he would invite me then uninvite me to these social gatherings. It always hurt and he would always apologize but it would happen again and again. In all honesty, I just won't tolerate this crap. It's stupid, immature, and I really don't know what he is so afraid of. Is he ashamed of me? Think I would embarrass him? Or is he skrewing around? Why can't I meet these friends of his? It's confusing but through out the ups and downs I really do love him and we do have history despite this thing that bothers me so much. It just can't be fixed. It just doesn't make sense to me. After all it's been a year and I have not met these people (male and female). I am sadden that it had to be this stupid thing that made me realize I am way better off alone. I feel as if my independence will liberate myself and make me whole again. I do not want to spend the rest of my life overthinking. Am I overreacting? I just believe making excuses shouldn't have to be acwurired in relationships. I come from an old school traditional family where love, relationships, and marriage comes from respect within your own desirniy and reality. excuses are just phony. What do you think? Am I doing the right thing by walking away? Should I have met these so called friends of his? Is he being true to his word?
Gus Grimly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 In all honesty the thing that made me want to let go the most is the fact that he wouldn't let me meet his co workers who He called friends. How old are you? Is he being true to his word? What was his word? You never mentioned one thing he said to you.
Author stayclassi Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 I am 23. He is 24. When I mentioned why I couldn't come we got into a huge argument. He basically said it'll be awkward bringing you. No one else is bringing their significant other. Yet the reason they are going out is because it's his bday. He also said, "I don't care. you are NOT coming. Who the **** are you? U might kill the vibe" basically he said a lot of bull****. Phony excuses. Yet why wouldn't you want your girlfriend there at your Bday get together. Especially if there will be men and women involved. Especially if I have met all his other friends. But I just can't meet this group.
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