Special Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 (edited) So she had dated a few people and is currently dating someone, but she never blocked me. We had a small chat months ago, nothing too special. Why would she block me now and not earlier? Edited August 19, 2015 by Special
joseb Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 So she had dated a few people and is currently dating someone, but she never blocked me. We had a small chat months ago, nothing too special. Why would she block me now and not earlier? Who cares? Seriously. It's facebook. It's your ex. Why does it matter? You must have other things to worry about. This isn't worthy of brain cells. 5
Author Special Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 Who cares? Seriously. It's facebook. It's your ex. Why does it matter? You must have other things to worry about. This isn't worthy of brain cells. Even though I hate her I also just love something about her that that I can't explain. Still trying to move on I guess.
drade Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 My ex did the same thing. At first I was asking questions like you. A week later I was over it. She did it for a reason. And that reason shouldn't matter. What matters is you and only you. Keep focusing on yourself. Whether you care for her or not, she obviously had a reason to block you. Don't dwell on why or how, focus on you and your healing.
PegNosePete Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Who cares? Seriously. It's facebook. It's your ex. Why does it matter? You must have other things to worry about. This isn't worthy of brain cells. Exactly. She did it because she wanted to do it. You need to stop analysing her actions and move on...
ExpatInItaly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Perhaps her new boyfriend doesn't like her keeping in touch with you. Perhaps she took the initiative to close that chapter once and for all. It's for the best, in the end. Do you really want to be able to see pictures of her and her new boyfriend? Sooner or later they will show up in her profile and it's nothing that will help you move on. 2
Gus Grimly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 It's for the best, in the end. Do you really want to be able to see pictures of her and her new boyfriend? Sooner or later they will show up in her profile and it's nothing that will help you move on. It's true. Pictures are bad because when you look at her picture and she's smiling it reminds you of how she used to smile at you that way, so you feel a false sense of hope inside when in reality it's the opposite. A week after my Ex broke our engagement she had her makeup, hair, nails professionally done, sexy new clothes and got professional photos taken. So she put those up on Facebook and she got 200 likes on her new profile pic. She never looked so good and happy. These pics sent the message; "Hey look at me! Got rid of the zero and lookin' for a hero!!". Ugh, the pics successfully kicked my Ego down a few notches. So I blocked her everywhere, I deleted all the photos of her off my social media, hard drive, phone etc. I kept 4 really ugly pics of her to remind me "This is what YOU really look like, can't fool me!". Just better for everyone involved you move on and forget about her. 4
Liono84 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 (edited) It's true. Pictures are bad because when you look at her picture and she's smiling it reminds you of how she used to smile at you that way, so you feel a false sense of hope inside when in reality it's the opposite. A week after my Ex broke our engagement she had her makeup, hair, nails professionally done, sexy new clothes and got professional photos taken. So she put those up on Facebook and she got 200 likes on her new profile pic. She never looked so good and happy. These pics sent the message; "Hey look at me! Got rid of the zero and lookin' for a hero!!". Ugh, the pics successfully kicked my Ego down a few notches. So I blocked her everywhere, I deleted all the photos of her off my social media, hard drive, phone etc. I kept 4 really ugly pics of her to remind me "This is what YOU really look like, can't fool me!". Just better for everyone involved you move on and forget about her. Gus Grimly,I gotta say, I really enjoy reading a lot of your comments on this board!! I've read more than a few. You're a very strong figure and I love how you stand for no BullSh*t. I know I have to move on and I've implemented the NC and will do so for good, but emotionally I'm not the strongest guy. I envy guys who move on more quickly because in the back of my head, I still cling on to a hope of her coming back. I, too, went through the exact situation as you. My ex, broke up with me a few weeks ago. I was completely blind-sided. Albeit, we were in a LDR for the moment, we were still very close and she was planning on returning back. At the time of our breakup I hadn't seen her in a few weeks and she had already started to look better. It's been another few weeks and she posted new pictures a few days ago on Facebook, and she has never looked more beautiful. Oddly enough, I had immediately deleted all social media contact with her from the 2nd day on, but I had mutual friends who informed me and showed me. My heart cut deep that day and I told me friends to NEVER again show me or let me know about her activities. You really HAVE to delete everything. I mean, everything!!! Phone number, text messages, email messages, all the pictures you've had together, all social media. I even took it a step further and deleted every single picture on my phone from all our trips, outings, dates, restaurants etc that I was with her on the occasion. The ironic thing is you know in your mind that they truly do NOT look like that perfect picture they just posted up. You've seen them in real life, face to face or in bed, but when you get dumped, pyscholically, you feel more attracted in some sick way. Your immediate reaction is to have the person back at all costs. That automatically charges a wire in your brain that you think of them as more beautiful, at least physically, and I stress physically, because you are disgusted at who they truly are inside. When you top that off, by them losing a few pounds, or having that perfect picture that they posted up (Who knows, they prob took 200 takes for that 1 picture), and seeing hundred of likes, it compounds the effect. That's why you have to delete all contact!!!!!! Edited August 19, 2015 by Liono84 1
aloneinaz Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 You really HAVE to delete everything. I mean, everything!!! Phone number, text messages, email messages, all the pictures you've had together, all social media. I even took it a step further and deleted every single picture on my phone from all our trips, outings, dates, restaurants etc that I was with her on the occasion. That's why you have to delete all contact!!!!!! This is absolutely correct. Where the problem arises is people DON'T want to give up that LAST gasp of a connection to the ex. They feel like blocking them from social media will REALLY make the dumper never want to talk to them again. In all reality, it does the opposite. The dumpee is taking the first steps to full acceptance of the situation, realizing there's no value to it and want to move on. It demonstrates that they no longer are going to pine over some who kicked them out of their lives. Many newbie folks believe they are in strict NC and can't figure out why they are "stuck" in not getting over the ex? Ya know why? They haven't wiped the ex clean from their lives. They still read old texts, pictures, emails and cards. They still spy on their ex on social media or have their friends keep them updated. If most people could wipe there ex from their phones, computers and lives by getting rid of all those reminders of the failed relationship, they'd realize how much better they feel. 2
Diezel Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Even though I hate her I also just love something about her that that I can't explain. Still trying to move on I guess. So is she. That's why she blocked you. Stop "trying" and just move on.
Gus Grimly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Gus Grimly,I gotta say, I really enjoy reading a lot of your comments on this board!! I've read more than a few. You're a very strong figure and I love how you stand for no BullSh*t. Hey, thank you, I really appreciate the gracious sentiment! I know I have to move on and I've implemented the NC and will do so for good, but emotionally I'm not the strongest guy. I envy guys who move on more quickly because in the back of my head, I still cling on to a hope of her coming back. You and me both brother. It's not easy, we all cling on to every morsel of hope that we can muster. It's not that you aren't strong, what you are going through is absolutely natural. I always wonder about the people who can just blink it away so easily. When you truly love someone and it ends, it's like a mini death. Anyone with a heart isn't going to just walk away unscathed. The ironic thing is you know in your mind that they truly do NOT look like that perfect picture they just posted up. You've seen them in real life, face to face or in bed, but when you get dumped, pyscholically, you feel more attracted in some sick way. Oh for sure. It's crazy how our minds can become so perverse like that, without even trying. It's a perfect example why destroying every single photo, blocking all social media and gossip about your Ex is imperative. You don't need any of my advice, you're way ahead of the game. It was good for me to hear a story similar to mine. Everything you said I pretty much had thought the same thing about my own experience. This is why LS is so great, you can always find someone else going through exactly what you've been through and it gives you strength because you realize, you're not alone, and that's comforting.
Gus Grimly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Many newbie folks believe they are in strict NC and can't figure out why they are "stuck" in not getting over the ex? Ya know why? They haven't wiped the ex clean from their lives. They still read old texts, pictures, emails and cards. They still spy on their ex on social media or have their friends keep them updated. If most people could wipe there ex from their phones, computers and lives by getting rid of all those reminders of the failed relationship, they'd realize how much better they feel. That's some fantastic food for thought. It's kind of a full cleansing in a way. Shedding the skin of who you were and accepting who you are now. I'm guilty of the spying, but after a while I realized how ridiculous and self-defeating it was. So, I stopped. It was sort of a "duh!" moment. So now I'm "unstuck" and slowly getting back on track.
Chi townD Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 You said that she's dated others since you and she currently dating. Well, she's probably getting serious with this one and doesn't want you to see it. 1
aloneinaz Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 So now I'm "unstuck" and slowly getting back on track. Good to hear Gus. I know it's not easy my friend. I've been there. I can say when I erased, deleted and pitched all reminders of my last ex, I felt like a ton of bricks where off my shoulders. I couldn't look at those items anymore. She was blocked on social media. There was nothing to remind me of her or the failed R/S. It was the best thing I did to move on.
mightycpa Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 So she had dated a few people and is currently dating someone, but she never blocked me. We had a small chat months ago, nothing too special. Why would she block me now and not earlier? Her boyfriend probably made her do it.
Author Special Posted August 26, 2015 Author Posted August 26, 2015 (edited) Edit: Nevermind, doesn't matter. Edited August 26, 2015 by Special
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