So I BROKE NC.

[Craftydre]

I cracked today and broke NC.

 

She answered and she sounded less annoyed as she did in the past after a few days no contact but then I cracked and asked if she lover me in which she replied as a friend. I told her if she would like to meet she said not now as she needs space, and she is visiting a friend in tenessee. She also told me she does not love me in that way anymore but also told me she can't lead me on and give me false hope and hinted that she might be saying that as a way to cover up her feelings so I move on, and that she mentioned grieving each other so we should stop talking. Anyway agreed to go No contact again. What do you think, do I still have a chance? I know a lot of you will say no contact is for healing and moving on, and I should just focus on that. Although that is obviously what I have to do anyways, what are your thoughts on a potential reconcealiation? I respect the realize it's over advice, but since I'm fresh out, it doesn't hurt to try and pick at her brain a little bit to keep my sanity. Any ideas on what chance I have? How long until she comes to me if she does, if she really meant what she said about not loving me?

[aloneinaz]

I cracked today and broke NC.

 

She answered and she sounded less annoyed as she did in the past after a few days no contact but then I cracked and asked if she lover me in which she replied as a friend. I told her if she would like to meet she said not now as she needs space, and she is visiting a friend in tenessee. She also told me she does not love me in that way anymore but also told me she can't lead me on and give me false hope and hinted that she might be saying that as a way to cover up her feelings so I move on, and that she mentioned grieving each other so we should stop talking. Anyway agreed to go No contact again. What do you think, do I still have a chance? I know a lot of you will say no contact is for healing and moving on, and I should just focus on that. Although that is obviously what I have to do anyways, what are your thoughts on a potential reconcealiation? I respect the realize it's over advice, but since I'm fresh out, it doesn't hurt to try and pick at her brain a little bit to keep my sanity. Any ideas on what chance I have? How long until she comes to me if she does, if she really meant what she said about not loving me?

 

 

You have zero chance right now due to doing the exact opposite of what you should be doing. You look needy, clingy and desperate to her. You couldn't be turning her off any better. Woman like confident guys that are self assured and respect themselves.

 

 

You should vanish from her life like she's requesting. She can't be any clearer in telling you that she doesn't want you in her life.

 

 

The only way a dumper returns is when the dumped accept the news of it being over. They vanish from the dumpers life. Block them everywhere and accept it's over. They then heal and move on. They start to date again and maybe find a new R/S. If the dumper still has ANY feelings towards their ex, it will shock them that the person had the balls to simply move on w/out begging, pleading and stroking their ego. Suddenly, the realize they may of lost their ex for good. The dumpee looks attractive to them again because he found someone new. She realizes maybe she isn't all that and a bag of chips. Couple all of that with the dumper maybe not having success w/being single, having bad dates, a short rebound R/S and missing being in a R/S. SOMETIMES they may return and ask for another try.

 

 

Now, doing what you've been doing? You have NO chance at her considering dating you again.

[Chi townD]

Okay, blunt honest truth time. You have NO CHANCE! She just gave you the I love you but I'm not in love with you speech. There's another guy she's interested in, or pursuing or has already hooked up with! The reason why SHE suggested that you two stop talking, it's not for her to heal, she's already healed up. It's for her to pursue this other guy uninterrupted! Also, so you don't make her feel guilty!

 

 

Dude, time to heal up and move on. Billions of girls on this planet and you're stuck on ONE that doesn't want you!