le_20 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Met this guy January this year, had been talking and messaging for months since then and started dating few months ago. He is a business man and currently moved back to his country permanently. What confused me is... he bought me air ticket to visit him, provided me his bank statement for visa application (but i didnt take a look at his bank figures),today sent me photos of his antiques collection from his home but he is kind of avoiding business talk. I totally understand he is trying to avoid gold diggers because he met a lot in the past.But I'm definitely not one! So far we dated, he paid for every meal,I did offer to pay but he refused to. So I always thank him,sometimes will brought him something in return, his favorite dessert or my handmade artcraft. So far he gave me an Mexican embroidered cloth as gift,which is big contrast to his ex, who asked him to buy lots of high brand stuff,i never asked him for any gift because I think i can get it myself if i want something. Today had a pleasure chit chat with him,but when it came to business talk, I mentioned that it seems to me he prefer investing in industry he knows, he suddenly became alert and decrease his responds into very short,brief message.I meant no harm!! Any comments?
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I don't know anybody who has financial conversations at least not specifics with people they are only dating. You know he's solvent. Why are you continuing to ask Qs that are none of your business at this point?
juicygirl Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Do you at least know where he works or what he does? If yes then there's really no need to pepper him with questions about his day job. I'd be more concerned as to why he's sharing details of his ex/past relationships with you.
samantha_t85 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 He is trying to weed out gold diggers, but showed you his bank statement? Um…that is bizarre.
usernametaken Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 He is trying to weed out gold diggers, but showed you his bank statement? Um…that is bizarre. From what I understand the bank statement was used to support a visa application - the US requires this in some instances. OP, I take it you're not a native English speaker. If I'm reading your post correctly, you are concerned that your boyfriend is being vague or not talking about what he does for work. Is that correct? I could understand how that's a little bit odd, since that's something people generally discuss.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 He is trying to weed out gold diggers, but showed you his bank statement? Um…that is bizarre. This is sometimes required by an Embassy or Consulate to be considered for a visa, ie. that your host/sponsor can prove they are financially sound should you (the visa applicant) need money while in the country and won't rely on public funds. It's not so strange when it comes to logistics of visa applications, really. Having said that, I'm not sure why you're asking him questions about his business OP. What sort of questions have you asked him? Or has he not told you what he actually does for a living?
elaine567 Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 The man I guess, is still hung up on his ex. #1
Author le_20 Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 I don't know anybody who has financial conversations at least not specifics with people they are only dating. You know he's solvent. Why are you continuing to ask Qs that are none of your business at this point? no, i didnt intend to ask, it was just casual chit chat as usual, especially after his friend(male) visited him and stayed at his residence for 1 week, we didnt have much time to talk,although he kept me update. so he actually was waiting for me online this morning, and we chat for 2 hours, as usual,about everything. He sent me pics of his antiques and also told me that he took his friend to a sport club which is one of his properties. He did mention about part of his business,but this is the 1st time he mentioned his properties. I meant no harm, merely noticed that his business so far I heard are actually all related to his interest,so i just stated my thought...thats it!!
Author le_20 Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 (edited) From what I understand the bank statement was used to support a visa application - the US requires this in some instances. OP, I take it you're not a native English speaker. If I'm reading your post correctly, you are concerned that your boyfriend is being vague or not talking about what he does for work. Is that correct? I could understand how that's a little bit odd, since that's something people generally discuss. This is sometimes required by an Embassy or Consulate to be considered for a visa, ie. that your host/sponsor can prove they are financially sound should you (the visa applicant) need money while in the country and won't rely on public funds. It's not so strange when it comes to logistics of visa applications, really. Having said that, I'm not sure why you're asking him questions about his business OP. What sort of questions have you asked him? Or has he not told you what he actually does for a living? yes, what i concerned is he was being vague as I meant no harm.He sent me pics of his antiques and also told me that he took his friend to a sport club which is one of his properties. He did mention about part of his business,but this is the 1st time he mentioned his properties.He was the one who brought up the topic. I merely noticed that his business so far I heard are actually all related to his interest,so i just stated my thought...and after that, i mentioned about my friend is seeking for my business coorperation and i thought maybe he can share his opinion....thats it!! we usually talk about everything,so its strange to me! or westerners dont usually talk about this? Edited August 19, 2015 by le_20
usernametaken Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 That depends. Americans will generally talk about business quite freely and openly. Europeans (at least the ones I knew when living in Europe) are a little more guarded talking about business/work; some think it's tacky to do so. I cannot speak for Australians.
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