Kylemopar Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 So I was talking with this girl on IG. It was only for 2 days but they were pretty eventful. She wrote back at a consistent pace, she opened up to me, I made her laugh, I made her feel good. She's 23 and feels like she wasted all her years and I reassured her that she hasn't. The first day we wrote back to each other until 1 in the morning. And the second day was pretty good too. She was pretty emotional and incredibly stressed. She lives about an hour away from me and even liked a few of my selfies. Then out of nowhere she deactivated her account, I managed to get in contact with her sister who said that she deactivated all of her social media for some time, so I askedher sister to let her know that I was worried about her and that someone cares about her. I imagine she just needs a break to focus on what matters to her. I just want to know if I at least a good impression by caring and showing that she's not unimportant. Will it be enough for her to remember me and want to talk me again if she ever deactivates her account? I even asked her sister to ask her if she would like to go on a date with me but she has so much in her plate right now that it most likely will be a no. I asked for her number when we first started talking, but she says that she only saves it for close family. I basically first talking to her over a picture she posted that said "You're in important piece of the puzzle in someone else's life" with her comment saying "where's MY puzzle". We bonded pretty quick over that. She looks, writes, acts, and feels just like my ex. Both of they're childhoods weren't the best, they both can't handle stress very well. Even little things like they both love dark chocolate, favorite colo is green, and they both like Lilys. Even down to the last name, Gaxiola. So it's like I found my ex all over again. So I feel like this new girls was the missing piece to my puzzle. It was only 2 days, but I made a massive amount of progress with her in those 2 days.
Omei Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Stalking out this girls sister after talking to her two days on the net....you are not going to get a date for reals if anything they're giggling and gabbing over how creepy that is. If she had any care about going further than your conversations you had together she would of made sure you had a way of contacting her before she removed her profile. Forget this one shes not coming back. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 Oh dear. Where to begin? OP, it was not a good move to go seeking out her sister and trying to get a date that way. That's over-stepping a boundary, especially considering that she wouldn't even give you her phone number. She obviously does not want to be contacted. You're probably going to come across as far too invasive and that's never attractive. Two days is nothing in the grand scheme of things. You don't know her. You have no idea how she acts, as you've never met her. Yes, you may have chatted about different things but you have never actually spoken to her. Sorry to be blunt, but I don't see how you made massive progress in two days if she wouldn't even give you her number. You are projecting your desire for your ex on to this girl. You simply cannot know if she's your "missing piece" - that's a fantasy and an attempt to fit this girl into the void your ex left. I doubt she will write again, especially after your misguided attempt to contact her through her sister. I don't think you have a bad intention, but it looks...really not good. Leave her alone now. 1
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