stickolip Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Help me out here. I've been dating a guy for 6 months. I stay over every week and sometimes on the weekend, we go for dinner, walks, movies or just chill out. He text messages or e.mails me almost every day and we chat by phone like one or two times a week. He is so sweet with me, like giving me a cute nickname and he's always saying he likes me and loves spending time with me. He gives me a lot of affection and is always hugging me and kissing me, even when we're out together. He makes certain i'm happy and makes things ready for when i come over, like getting in groceries especially for me. He tells me all the time i make him happy and he really enjoys sex with me. He calls me his girlfriend and he talks about stuff we could do together in the future. A couple things worry me though. 1. Some days he doesn't text message me, maybe like one time every now and then. 2. He says his parents know we are dating but he's never taken me to meet them even though he visits with them like every two weeks. 3. Same with his friends, he's always saying we'll go out with them but we never get around to it, though he doesn't see them that much on his own. Is he like really into me or not?
whichwayisup Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 You went from upbeat, positive and happy TO down, negative and full of doubt! How serious is the relationship? Do you see yourself settling down with this guy? Has the LOVE you exchange happened? A couple things worry me though. 1. Some days he doesn't text message me, maybe like one time every now and then. 2. He says his parents know we are dating but he's never taken me to meet them even though he visits with them like every two weeks. 3. Same with his friends, he's always saying we'll go out with them but we never get around to it, though he doesn't see them that much on his own. 1. So he needs to still live his life. Do things without you, just like you should do things that you love to do! Just because you're seeing eachother doesn't mean that each of you can still take afew days or afew hours off to be with friends etc... 2. He's not ready. Maybe he's not comfy with that yet. Ask him about it...Find out why and maybe suggest that it would be nice to meet his family. Has he met yours? 3. He seems laidback. Not a big deal. Again, pursue it, take charge and arrange a night so you can all hang out together. Don't wait for him to make the decisions. Then see how he reacts. Good or bad. Then you will atleast know. I honestly don't think you have to worry yet. Just enjoy eachother.
Author stickolip Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 Thankyou, that was reassuring to read. I think my doubts come from that too-good-to-be-true feeling cuz i don't usually meet such nice guys. LOL
whichwayisup Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Stay in the now and enjoy what you have together. Be honest with him, I'm sure once he knows how you feel and how important it is to you, he'll make some more effort.
FolderWife Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 1. Some days he's overwhelmed with love for you, and wants to talk to you every five seconds, and other days he's wrapped up in other crap, and can't even remember to text you. When I'm away for the weekend, it's HARD for me to remember to call my husband...but I love him. 2. His parents don't want to meet his girlfriend so soon, because if they get attached and he dumps you, it'll hurt them. If they just don't get to know you, then they won't risk losing you. Parents get attached to their kids' boyfriends and girlfriends too you know. Maybe he's afraid his parents won't like you...not that there's anything wrong with you, it's just that no one is good enough for their little boy. 3. He'd rather be alone with you.
Author stickolip Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 That all makes a lot of sense. You guys are great for showing me what i can't see.
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