strkell01 Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Dear All: Here is my situation and would appreciate everyone, and anyone's guidance. - I was dating this woman for about 3 years, and both of us were madly in love - I am multiple rape victim (age 39) which happened a long time ago but never really sought comprehensive help which really affected our relationship - So in the latter stages of our relationship I started seeking help, but it was too late, and my gf broke-up with me for the 2nd time saying that I cannot meet her emotional needs and she doesn't love me anymore - The above happened about 2 months ago. - For the last two months, I have taken complete time off, and dedicated myself to healing and have sought and continue to seek aggressive therapy, and have come to a point where I believe I am emotionally healthy - My ex and I we exchange texts every few days and have had a couple of calls just to check how we are doing. My Question: - Now that I am better should I ask ex for another chance? How should I approach it? I really really love, and wanted to get married with this woman. All advice appreciated. strkell01
seasickpeeve Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Are you able to cope with her answer being no? What would you do if it was - stay in touch still or go no contact? I think you need to prepare for every answer and if you honestly feel too vulnerable to hear 'no' at the moment then it might risk undoing some of the hard work you have put into recovering. Gain requires risk, risk requires vulnerability, but only open yourself up to vulnerability if it isn't going to set you too far back.
La.Primavera Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 First of all, I commend you for taking care of yourself and getting help. You did the right thing. Secondly in regards to your ex, didn't she say she wasn't in love with you anymore? If that is truly the case then I think it would be a waste of time to pursue her. If she hadn't said that I would think it would be worth a shot. If you decide to go ahead and ask her just keep in mind that there is a significant possibility that she will say no, but if it will help give you closure than I guess it will be worth it in the long run. Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear. All the best.
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