my_manda Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 For two months after our break-up my ex called consistently, despite his moving away. He recently learned he will be moving yet again. I went to Vegas last week and did not hear from him the entire time. I called him yesterday and he informed me that "he does not have to call if he is busy and does not feel like it", and that he felt obligated to call me. What should I do, I am so confused. I am backing off for now and have not called, emailed, anything. Do you think he is trying to tell me to piss off basically, or do you think he is just trying to get his grounding and restate his independence. We dated for two years and we are 28 and 29. HELP!!!!!
outdated Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Let him be for now. Many people yearn for their independence until they actually find themselves getting it. That's a sure sign of someone who doesn't feel the need to talk to you constantly. Besides, you are broken up. You shouldn't expect him to call.
Author my_manda Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 I know you are right and there is nothing I can do about this.....I think I feel so frustrated in part because he moved out, moved to a new city with new people and a new dating pool, and got an incredible job. I was left with the entirety of the mortgage. His parents had even bought us a washer/dryer for when we moved in, and now they want me to pay for it since my ex did not ant to take them when he moved and therefore won't be putting them to use. I feel like he dumped on me, then his life improves, etc, and even still he has all the control as I cannot contact him. I am taking your advice and leaving him alone, even though it is really hard. Thanks so much Outdated. I know I should not expect him to call, and Mike, my ex is so into "punishing" people when he feels they may be getting in his space. What is weird though, is that if I did not call him back one evening when he called me, or get off of the phone with whomever I might be speaking with when he calls in, then he will make comments to me about it and claim I have odd behavior.
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