brokensobad Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Okay my ex fiancee dump me over text 2 weeks ago. We've been through a lot ups/down and had broken up couple of times but ended getting back together less than 24 hours. I was engaged to her for about a year and been together for about 3 years. Then last few weeks since she started on her new job , things changed. I notice that she's being distant to me and I felt like she's not inlove with me anymore but loves me still. We are almost 8300 miles apart ( LDR ) . Rare communication, getting up she will just text me and say I am ready to work text you later I love you. Same when she gets home. She don't bother what happened to her day anymore like she used to. Everytime I talk to her in facetime there's no more topic that we can talk about. I start a conversation then she will cut me off and be silence again. The day when she dumped me we had a small fight. I fight thats not even worse of what we had. I opened up to her what I feel ask her it she's inlove with me anymore or not. She said yes I am still. But I am not convince because her actions are very contradicting of what she's saying. She got pissed of me thinking because of what I said and just dump me. I said okay. Then that was it. I was depress, I can't think of any reason where or what I've done wrong for her to dump me like that. I went to NC for 9 days and texted her again and said , If she wanna end things properly atleast see me in personal. I was desperate to get the answer so I book a flight to see her eventhough she keep saying she got no time for me. She was mad saying hurtful mean words against me like she don't wanna be with me anymore. She got tired of waiting , that she knew there's someone out there thats mean for her that she hasn't found it. On the other side, she said she still loves me but don't wanna be with me anymore. I couldn't accept her reason. I insist asking her to tell me atleast a more deep reason why she ended it last like nothing after she propose to me last year to be her wife? How can she say all these words to me? I am so hurt but I am not mad at her. She then mentioned that I need to get my divorce finalize , maybe that would change her mind but there's no guarantee that she will come back to me but theres a chance she will. As of now she wants me to stay out of her life because she really don't wanna see me anymore and don't wanna be connected with me. It breaks my heart but I never stop. I told her if you want me to stay away from you and leave you alone doesn't mean my divorce don't matter to you? She then replied that , My divorce still matter to her. I was separated for a long time with my ex husband but our divorce wasn't finalize yet because of so many issue like property. I called my ex husband and tell him to get the divorce finalize and we did it. We are just waiting for the court to grant it. I leave my ex alone because no matter how I push harder still its the more worst she transformed to someone that I don't know. She quit smoking because of me. Now she's back on her smoking habits and change her appearance. How can a person tell you mean hurtful words dump you just like that and keep telling you they love you? I stoped texting her because I wanna respect her decision and I am so hurt but I am still confuse if I should let her know about my divorce when it gets finalize. I was her first girlfriend and truelove , She's turning 23 and I'm 25. It was very quick to the point that until now I still couldn't think why this is happening. I can't think of any reason aside from G.i.G.S or I could be wrong? Also she believes that's theres someone out there for her that she's hasn't found yet. Meaning she's not sure about me? Why would she propose to be on the first place? :'( She don't have any one thats what she keep telling me but I am not sure if she is telling the truth or not maybe she already like someonelse? I have no idea. I am so depress and stress. After putting all the effort flying across the world twice , 3x a year just to be with her she just dumped me like a trash. She wouldn't even give me a chance to end things personaly. I am very heart broken. Feels like I have the whole world with me right now. Do you think I still need to let her know about my divorce when it gets final but I will not force her to get back to me. I will just let her know. I know she doesn't care about me anymore. She loves me , think anout me everyday but don't have the urge to see me anymore or be with me and miss me. I don't know what to do!! I truly believe she's having G.I.G.S! HELP I need some insight guys ! :'(
casey.lives Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 long distance is pointless esp at a young age. Go have fun and meet other people. the world is huge, don't let the internet fool you!!
Author brokensobad Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 long distance is pointless esp at a young age. Go have fun and meet other people. the world is huge, don't let the internet fool you!! We got engaged. She even stayed at my parents house for 6 months with out me. How could a person dump me just like that? Do you think she's having gigs?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I think she's too young and the distance is too much, and she lost interest. There could be someone else, but it doesn't really matter. The end result is the same, that she no longer wishes to be in this relationship. I have a feeling it's more about the tremendous distance. It's too hard for many people, especially when they're so young and naturally have the urge to get out and explore and be free of commitments.
Author brokensobad Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 I think she's too young and the distance is too much, and she lost interest. There could be someone else, but it doesn't really matter. The end result is the same, that she no longer wishes to be in this relationship. I have a feeling it's more about the tremendous distance. It's too hard for many people, especially when they're so young and naturally have the urge to get out and explore and be free of commitments. I am ready to bring her in states to get married and start a life next year. We had plans and all of the sudden she just dump me like this. It's devastating. I completely heart broken so much! I don't know what to do ;(
ExpatInItaly Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I am ready to bring her in states to get married and start a life next year. We had plans and all of the sudden she just dump me like this. It's devastating. I completely heart broken so much! I don't know what to do ;( Honestly,she sounds far too immature to get married. Moving around the world and getting married is a gigantic life step, and I think she probably realized she just isn't ready for it. She's not even 23 yet. Those are some very heavy commitments for someone so young. All you can do now is start focusing on healing yourself.
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