Summer fling or am I just crazy?

[picnicinthepark]

I recently reunited with a woman in NYC; we briefly met through a mutual friend about a year ago in London. I was in the city visiting a friend for the weekend and had not anticipated on seeing her. Long story short, we all went out together, her and I hit it off, and I ended up going home with her.

 

A couple weeks later she came to Toronto for the weekend to visit our mutual friend. Prior to this we had been in contact via text messages and had made plans to meet up. They ended up coming to a regatta at my sailing club and we had a great time. She ended up coming home with me and we spent the next day in the city together and it was really nice. Her flight back to NYC was the same day and I dropped her off at the airport. We kissed goodbye and she insisted that I visit her in Florence where she will be moving in September to work at an art gallery.

 

I will be in London this coming October and we have pencilled-in plans for me to come visit her in Florence. This all seems a little crazy but I have feelings for this woman that I barely know. I have questioned how serious she is but our mutual friend assures me that her intentions are very sincere.

 

I think this is just a summer fling or am I crazy? I know from personal and external experiences that LD relationships are difficult. We have not discussed this but I would like to keep it that way; I like the way we left things and I like to live in the moment. I'm excited to visit her and see her world. Although I feel as if no good can come from this. I would appreciate any thoughts on this matter! Thanks in advance!

[Jj66]

Just continue enjoying it while it's good. The whole thing will resolve itself one way or another in due time.

[Leigh 87]

I tried it back in January/ february of this year.

 

It rarely works.

 

The guy in question still wants to fly me out to see him. But for what? Unless either of us re locate... It just aint going to work.

 

He stays single because he thinks we have a rare connection. Me? I think I should move on to new men who I have the strong chemistry with and just ignore that me and this guy had a connection.

 

Have you felt this strongly about others? Are you sure this isn't just a case of intense chemistry with a nice seeming woman? Because you can find that locally.

 

With my long distance guy..... He seemed to think we had a connection and it would be stupid not to explore it.

 

I am currently dating someone else. And was also dating other guys since the long distance guy. I haven't found a connection quite as... Strong? But I have found amazing chemistry and the instant spark with other men.

 

And quite honestly I believe a large part of a connection is often times the unavailable aspect. Chances are, you wouldn't think it was a ground breaking once in a lifetime connection if she Lived locally and it was was to be with her.

 

It is so easy to over dramatise things in your own mind. When push came to shove, when I recently saw the long distance guy...... I didn't feel some intense thing that felt any different to other men I have chemistry with. I had just build it up on my own head.

 

Yes he will, and I am sure this woman will be, someone who can give you butterflies. But there are other people who can have this same affect on us.

 

Maybe it is a once in a life time connection you guys share. Who knows. It wouldn't hurt exploring it if you really do feel more intensely for her that you have ever felt for others women.

 

I sort of believe there are people who don't feel connections easily or who really don't feel the spark with many people..... If that is you, perhaps this woman is the rare one who ignites a spark when other women have failed.

 

With me, I feel intense chemistry with enough men for me to know that I don't need to hold out for any guy who I feel the spark with. I know it'll come around again. Locally. However, my friend is like you and she rarely feels a spark or a connection so..... She would likely invest in a long distance thing since it is so rare for her to feel strong romantic feelings for q man.