sot5213 Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Long story short me and my girlfriend of over a year broke up around a month ago. She went no contact on me at the end of the first week. Blocked number, social media,etc. Our relationship stopped growing it felt like. It grew to a point where she never wanted anything physical, admitted to neglecting and rejecting me. I felt unwanted but kept trying to improve on our relationship. Slowly it wore me down emotionally and we would go through some rough arguments. These arguments led to multiple "we're dones" and "breakups". Each time within 24 hours my now ex-girlfriend came back asking to forget about it and take her back. The fifth breakup finally happened and she didn't come back this time. I felt very guilty and blamed myself for a lot of this, causing her to feel frustrated emotionally and physically. She said it wasn't me and that it was just how she is. It was hard for me to understand and process but she said she needed space and time. She cut all contact about 25 days ago, we've seen each other but have not spoken words. This whole process is rough to understand. I've channeled a lot of my anger, frustration and sadness into the gym and the results have been very motivating and positive. I just feel somewhat lost with what to do and it is hard not being able to at least be on good terms with my ex. Any perspective or thoughts is much welcome.
mightycpa Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Things weren't as good as your heart remembers them. It's lying to you. Pay no attention, and do what your intellect tells you to do. Your heart will get with the program eventually.
aloneinaz Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 (edited) Long story short me and my girlfriend of over a year broke up around a month ago. She went no contact on me at the end of the first week. Blocked number, social media,etc. Our relationship stopped growing it felt like. It grew to a point where she never wanted anything physical, admitted to neglecting and rejecting me. I felt unwanted but kept trying to improve on our relationship. Slowly it wore me down emotionally and we would go through some rough arguments. These arguments led to multiple "we're dones" and "breakups". Each time within 24 hours my now ex-girlfriend came back asking to forget about it and take her back. The fifth breakup finally happened and she didn't come back this time. I felt very guilty and blamed myself for a lot of this, causing her to feel frustrated emotionally and physically. She said it wasn't me and that it was just how she is. It was hard for me to understand and process but she said she needed space and time. She cut all contact about 25 days ago, we've seen each other but have not spoken words. This whole process is rough to understand. I've channeled a lot of my anger, frustration and sadness into the gym and the results have been very motivating and positive. I just feel somewhat lost with what to do and it is hard not being able to at least be on good terms with my ex. Any perspective or thoughts is much welcome. You both sound young? What you wrote describes a young relationship that ran it's course. It appears she was losing interest in your towards the end. You noticed this and then the arguing started which only made things worse. When you noticed she stopped being affectionate and was neglecting you, that's when you should of recognized she was fading on you and ended it. What you should do? Learn from it what you can and let that failed R/S stay dead. You two were not compatible. You're young and both should be out there getting more life experience before ever getting into a HEAVY, serious R/S. Stay NC, heal and move on w/your life. Edited August 18, 2015 by aloneinaz
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