HansonGirl Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I have gotten to know two different guys in my life. The first guy is 32, he leases a luxury car, and has signed up for all the online dating apps, mainly trying to get with 23 year old hotties or even college girls. He goes on tons of first dates but nothing seems to last- even though he is "active" when it comes to dating he hasn't had a girlfriend in YEARS. I am curious about him but hesitant... it seems weird to me that 75% of who he has chosen to 'follow' online are younger (20's) with a ton of cleavage-baring selfies. He is also kind of socially awkward. He attempts to be funny in the group of people. The Second guy is 25 years old and has mentioned that college girls are in a different place in their lives than him and he wouldn't aim for a college girl. He is also attractive too, just like the first guy. I don't know who he follows on social media, but i know he's not signed up for every dating app. He bought a normal moderately priced car (not a luxury car). He acts appropriately in social situations, doesn't need to crack jokes or be funny. is either of these guys more "normal" than the other? Which would you date? would you date either if you were 30? To me the 25 year old seems good but he's too young for me! 1
bubbaganoosh Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Old saying. Trying to make an impression is the impression that you make so there's the first guy. Second guy seems like he's saying "I am what I am and I live within my means." Second guy is the one. 1
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 it depends on what you are looking for. The second guy is boring vanilla and stable....but if you want some punch to your life, go for the first guy. Who wouldn't want to be riding around in a luxury car, being wine and dined and ravished by his animal passion...even if it's for a little while. You might get some jewelry out of him or a pair of designer shoes. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 it depends on what you are looking for. The second guy is boring vanilla and stable....but if you want some punch to your life, go for the first guy. Who wouldn't want to be riding around in a luxury car, being wine and dined and ravished by his animal passion...even if it's for a little while. You might get some jewelry out of him or a pair of designer shoes. but he LEASES the car, he doesn't own it.
abby_tx Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 To me the 25 year old seems good but he's too young for me! 25 - 30 is not that big of an age gap. I bet if ages were reversed, the difference wouldn't bother you. I'm 32 now and it took me a while to be comfortable dating a guy even just one year younger than me. Then I dated a guy 4 years younger than me and I had to get used to that. What am I getting at? Oh yeah. We're all going to get all old and wrinkly. We only have one life. Might as well spend the life with the person we enjoy. 2
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 but he LEASES the car, he doesn't own it. Sooooooooo it's costing you nothing to enjoy it. That just means he has money to spend elsewhere like a new handbag for you
Author HansonGirl Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 Sooooooooo it's costing you nothing to enjoy it. haha, i meant that he probably isn't wealthy and buying his dates jewelry. lol plus i was implying this guy is lame - he leases a car to try to look like a hot shot. Not sure if i'd enjoy his company enough to enjoy the car.
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Hun you want exciting or boring? And who said you had to commit to a relationship? Anyways there are plenty of men out there to try on.
Author HansonGirl Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 Hun you want exciting or boring? And who said you had to commit to a relationship? Where in my post did i imply the first guy was "fun"? his personality is boring too. Anyway, i know what you're saying, not trying to argue!! :-P :-) 1
yxalitis Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 it depends on what you are looking for. The second guy is boring vanilla and stable....but if you want some punch to your life, go for the first guy. Who wouldn't want to be riding around in a luxury car, being wine and dined and ravished by his animal passion...even if it's for a little while. You might get some jewelry out of him or a pair of designer shoes. Yeah, use the guy until you've gotten everything out of him you can...after all, he's clearly not worth investing any emotion into.. Wow, Smackie...harsh.... 2
mrldii Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 They're both normal. Why not go out with both of them and/or a few more and see which one(s) you like better and then decide which one (out of all of them) you like best? 2
mystikmind2005 Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Women often try to be 'politically correct' in dating and overlook superficial things that bother them because they do not want to feel like a hypocrite or something because of what men do that they hate and they don't want to be anything like that. But as time goes by, those superficial things can quietly sabotage the relationship in the background and eventually the woman breaks it of and everyone gets hurt. The truth is, there are always going to be differences and deficiencies in any relationship, the trick is to find a manageable balance, taking the longer term into consideration. Given the above, i would advise not continuing with either guy!
joseb Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Yeah, use the guy until you've gotten everything out of him you can...after all, he's clearly not worth investing any emotion into.. Wow, Smackie...harsh.... I assumed smackie was kidding but I guess not?! This is why I despair saying sometimes!
Toodaloo Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Guy 2 wins hands down... I would be dragging that man off to do all sorts of things.
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