noname Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 ok, this is my first personal thread. i just have one question... i try to be careful when asking questions because i know not all women are the same and this can go anywhere, but... why do women do this --- "we need to talk..." -- nothing drives me more crazy than that. why not wait and just talk about it instead of making and appointment and leaving someone wait all day and go nuts with their own imagination? is it done on purpose to throw you off kilter or make you sweat (especially when you know the person hates it)? or is it just an innocent heads up? i know no one can give me a definitive answer. i just want some personal input...
Marshbear Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 If they need a appointment to talk it usually means they have something very important to tell you and they want you undivided attention. It will not be casual conversation but probably something you may not like.
RoxStar Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Men do it to. I guess sometimes women know that they arent going to get your attention unless they tell you they really need to talk to you? I dont know.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 The person warns you in advance, in hopes that by the time they get around to telling you, your reaction will somewhat less because you will have known something bad was going to come of it.
alphamale Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by noname why do women do this --- "we need to talk..." -- your response to this NONAME, should be, "if it is so impt then we need to discuss it right now!"
Author noname Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia The person warns you in advance, in hopes that by the time they get around to telling you, your reaction will somewhat less because you will have known something bad was going to come of it. so there is no possibility that there may be good to come out of it?
Author noname Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale your response to this NONAME, should be, "if it is so impt then we need to discuss it right now!" i got you. i that is my usual. but let me clarify. but we are both at work (obviously i am b-ullsh-tting when i should be working oops), so it is understandable that she does not want to talk, but why not just wait until we are together, instead of giving me an ulcer? i am usually a calm person and handle most things accordingly. i'm just not one for suspense. it makes me a basket case...
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by noname so there is no possibility that there may be good to come out of it? It isn't necessarily negative, but if she wasn't smiling when she said it, and seemed very serious - then it is probably not good.
alphamale Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by noname i am usually a calm person and handle most things accordingly. i'm just not one for suspense. it makes me a basket case... sure NONAME, cause the anxiety has time to build up and u become even more nervous cause u don't know what to expect. if I said to u "NONAME!!! something bad will happen to you in approx 24 hrs", then u would be shytting bricks!
blind_otter Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale your response to this NONAME, should be, "if it is so impt then we need to discuss it right now!" Yeah I had this thrown back at me. So I spilled it on the phone while he was at a bar: "I'm pregnant and you're the father" -- HAH, that'll spoil your day REAL fast. Then he was all, what?? and I was like, well you asked for it so I told you, I guess that conversation is over BYE. It's probably important, private, and she's making an appointment to secure a time so that she can have your undivided attention and explain things in detail. Otherwise you'll just pop over all cheery or whatever and not give the conversation the gravity it requires.
Mz. Pixie Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Yeah, men hate this statement. I know my bf does. He said it's never been anything positive in his past so everytime he hears that his stomach drops, ha!
mental_traveller Posted May 11, 2005 Posted May 11, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale your response to this NONAME, should be, "if it is so impt then we need to discuss it right now!" Totally agree!
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