Tread Carefully Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Hi everybody. I'll try to keep it short. My best friend is a man and we've know each other for 3 years. We were very close and told each other everything. Feelings started building up for both of us. Intense feelings, lots of chemistry. Right at the point of us starting to talk about taking it to the next level...sex...he got a new job in a city a few hours away. That was 6 months ago. I've only heard from him a few times and we haven't been able to see each other. I miss him very much. Did he get scared? I asked him why he disappeared. He texted me today and said this: "I can't really answer that although I think of us often. I get so preoccupied with my own life that I shut everything else out. I know that's lame. How are you holding up?" To me, that translates as his life is really important...I'm not in it so therefore I'm not important at all. I don't understand. I've never been good at playing games or reading between the lines or doing that whole "guess what I really mean" thing. Did I translate it right? What do you guys think?
cerridwen Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I guess if you want to look at it through the lens of hurt feelings, "not being important" is one take. My take is he's admitting to having tunnel vision and being self-concerned at times, to the detriment of others. He admits it's a bad way of going about things. Whether that is acceptable or not is up to you. But he appears to be trying to say, "don't take this personally." 3
Author Tread Carefully Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 I guess if you want to look at it through the lens of hurt feelings, "not being important" is one take. My take is he's admitting to having tunnel vision and being self-concerned at times, to the detriment of others. He admits it's a bad way of going about things. Whether that is acceptable or not is up to you. But he appears to be trying to say, "don't take this personally." Thank you for your reply, I didn't think about it that way. I appreciate it. I knew I was looking at it from a hurt feelings pov and my normal logic went out the window.
RoseVille Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I guess if you want to look at it through the lens of hurt feelings, "not being important" is one take. My take is he's admitting to having tunnel vision and being self-concerned at times, to the detriment of others. He admits it's a bad way of going about things. Whether that is acceptable or not is up to you. But he appears to be trying to say, "don't take this personally." I also read it as, "It would have been fun while it lasted and was convenient." (When he was there.) But definitely a, "don't take this personally." 3
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