Jadey Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Yes, right now i want my ex back very very badly that it hurts. The thing is we had no bad parts in our quite short relationship but he just dummped me out the blueand is now with someone else But i have a feeling it wont last cos i think hes **** at itall really. or just scared. Hes been abit of an ass now but he wos the best boy ever when we were together so it is soo hard. I cant help but think ofall the good times instead of the nowwhich is him ignoring me. I keep hoping that he will realise he wants me one day and come back. But if he did hed have to fight for awhile i wouldntsay yes straight off!
ConfusedInOC Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Originally posted by ChuckDee33 Yes I would like another opportunity with my ex gf. She broke up with me but I told her (after a looong time of grieving and being lured into the 'just friends' pit) that I realized something important: Why would I want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with me? It doesn't make any sense to want to do that. I told her that all I ever wanted was the opportunity to try again with her, not really needing a commitment. So I let her know that I'm moving on because I have to and she would have to totally convince me that if she ever wanted to give us a second chance that it would have to be for the right reasons. Not because she is afraid of being alone, not because she couldn't find someone better, and not just because we miss and care for each other....but because she realized it was true love and it's worth the effort to try again with a new outlook on the relationship, knowing we both were going to put the effort into it to make it a whole new kind love. So yes, I would but only on that one condition. Otherwise it's just a complete waste of our time. If you are having trouble getting over an ex who left you just think of this: Let's say you just met a girl or guy who you'd like to date or possibly more. If you kept pursuing them and they obviously let you know they don't want to go out with you would you keep on trying or just find somebody else to pursue? Remember, why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you?? That, to me, means you have little self-respect. I know I had very little of that for about 8 months... See, the answers to our problems here are very UN-complicated and based in a world of reality. Once we recognize this and go with it we will be a lot better off. I know it's not easy when you are sort of blinded by emotional pain and grief. But our paths are already laid out before us...we just have to clear away the mess to see it. I totally agree. I wouldn't want my Ex back the way she is now. She would have to really have changed. Agreed too, if she came back now it would be because the new beau screwed her over and she's lonely. That or she wants sex. Either way, I don't want her back if she hasn't changed or I would only get the same 1/4 of her I got last time.
Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 Yes and no. There were things I realize that he did wrong and by no means should have put me through. But at the same time, everything was AMAZING before the breakup. He'd have to do a lot of begging and crying to get me back.. lol
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