Yyes Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I will try to be as brief as possible without adding too much detail. I was at a bar and see this girl. I see that a guy approaches her and asks her to dance. She chats with him, but tells him no. I say screw it, Im going to try now. I try and she says yes to dancing with me. We dance for a bit and I offer to buy her a drink. She didnt ask for a drink, but I offered either way. We go to the bar, have a nice conversation and there is chemistry. She says that she finds me attractive (I didnt ask, it just came out of her). I did however ask why she rejected the other guy and she says that there are guys that you like and others you dont and that its that simple. I end up asking for her number and she gives it to me. Afterwards, she says she wants to keep dancing with me. We dance for the next hour, we end up kissing and eventually I tell her I have to go but she says that she wants to keep dancing so I comply. Nonetheless, I message her the next day and she never messages me back. What the hell is up with girls these days and what did I do wrong? Thanks guys. I am hoping to get some good advice from the community.
grokcahsevol Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 I'm no expert but I have done quite a bit of reading and from what I have read I would have waited 2 -3 days to text her. Any guy that gets her number is going to text her the next day, you want to show her that your're different and not like the 97% of guys.
menyou Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 who makes these rules? I'm sorry but if i am out and giving someone attention and then my real # at the end of the night i had better receive a text or call in the next 24 hours. i don't get it. 3
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 I'm no expert but I have done quite a bit of reading and from what I have read I would have waited 2 -3 days to text her. Any guy that gets her number is going to text her the next day, you want to show her that your're different and not like the 97% of guys. Thats true. I should have waited maybe longer. But do you think she was interested in me based off what I mentioned here? Was the attraction there based off the information I have shared?
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 who makes these rules? I'm sorry but if i am out and giving someone attention and then my real # at the end of the night i had better receive a text or call in the next 24 hours. i don't get it. So what are your thoughts on the situation?
yxalitis Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Whenever a girl gives you her number do this simply trick... Read the number back to her, but make a mistake, say one number wrong. IF she corrects you "no, that's wrong" and repeats the number, congratulations, you have her number. But if she lets it slide...you got duped... Did you call to see if the number is real? 3
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 I didnt call but I texted her and she hasnt texted since. Its been a little over 24 hours.
yxalitis Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I didnt call but I texted her and she hasnt texted since. Its been a little over 24 hours. OH DUDE!!! LEARN SOME PATIENCE!! Here I was thinking it's been a week or so...
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 OH DUDE!!! LEARN SOME PATIENCE!! Here I was thinking it's been a week or so... Im used to girls texting back right away. I guess thats the way I am. I dont play games and I text back as soon as I can. Based off what I typed though, do you think she was interested ? Im sure you probably have more experience than I do. lol
ZA Dater Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 From where I sit I don't think you did anything wrong at all. 1
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 From where I sit I don't think you did anything wrong at all. I would think that the attraction was there if she told me all this stuff right?
ZA Dater Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 I would think that the attraction was there if she told me all this stuff right? I'd think so too, my own limited experience suggests you did everything you could have, give it a few days and then maybe give her a call. 1
mapofyourhead Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Yyes, I'm the same as you. I don't play games and wait 2-3 days to respond or feign disinterest or whatever else people like to do. If someone texts me and I'm interested, I text back when I get the chance, and I'll keep in touch. I don't know why people pretend to do otherwise. Anyway, I think she was interested in you at the time, but isn't interested enough to go anywhere else with things. Sucks, but people seem to do this all the time, so I wouldn't even bother with waiting and calling. She saw your text. She just chose to ignore it. 1
joseb Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 Yeah, she was interested in you at the time. Maybe you didn't make enough of a lasting impression on her for her to want to see you again in the cold light of day. Did you talk about meeting up, or just ask for her number? When you texted, did you include your name so she knew who it was from?(that's assuming you have the right number, I usually call when I get a # so she 'has my name' but its also to ensure its a real number - but reading back a wrong number can suffice to check this too) 1
thecomputerguy Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 OP, another question is what did you say to her in your text? I'm a believer of texting right away or next day. Most girls will realize you're playing a game when you wait. Usually if I give a girl my number they will text me next day. Also, how drunk or "gone" was she? Could have been she legit forgot some of her night, some people can hide this really well. The final thought is unfortunately, she might have just wanted attention for the night. In that case be happy it did blossom from there and try to brush it off. 1
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 Yyes, I'm the same as you. I don't play games and wait 2-3 days to respond or feign disinterest or whatever else people like to do. If someone texts me and I'm interested, I text back when I get the chance, and I'll keep in touch. I don't know why people pretend to do otherwise. Anyway, I think she was interested in you at the time, but isn't interested enough to go anywhere else with things. Sucks, but people seem to do this all the time, so I wouldn't even bother with waiting and calling. She saw your text. She just chose to ignore it. What causes women to do that? I guess its hard to understand from a guys point of view because I as a guy, know right away, I am interested in this girl. And if theres a girl that I am not interested in, I would definitely NEVER spend the whole night dancing with her.
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 Yeah, she was interested in you at the time. Maybe you didn't make enough of a lasting impression on her for her to want to see you again in the cold light of day. Did you talk about meeting up, or just ask for her number? When you texted, did you include your name so she knew who it was from?(that's assuming you have the right number, I usually call when I get a # so she 'has my name' but its also to ensure its a real number - but reading back a wrong number can suffice to check this too) I havent called. I just texted her, told her who I was and told her that I enjoyed my time with her the other day. We also didnt talk about meeting up again.
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 OP, another question is what did you say to her in your text? I'm a believer of texting right away or next day. Most girls will realize you're playing a game when you wait. Usually if I give a girl my number they will text me next day. Also, how drunk or "gone" was she? Could have been she legit forgot some of her night, some people can hide this really well. The final thought is unfortunately, she might have just wanted attention for the night. In that case be happy it did blossom from there and try to brush it off. She wasn't gone when I first approached her. She had barely bought the first drink. After the second drink that I bought her, she did seem like she was a bit tipsy but not like throwing up or anything like that. Also, if you just wanted attention, wouldn't she just have accepted the first guys approaches instead of rejecting the first guy?
joseb Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 She wasn't gone when I first approached her. She had barely bought the first drink. After the second drink that I bought her, she did seem like she was a bit tipsy but not like throwing up or anything like that. Also, if you just wanted attention, wouldn't she just have accepted the first guys approaches instead of rejecting the first guy? No, she knows that she will be approached by several guys and can afford to wait for someone she finds more interesting or attractive. Ive been in situations where at the time a girl seemed attractive enough but next day im thinking, meh. Sometimes you lose yourself in the music, the moment 1
Author Yyes Posted August 18, 2015 Author Posted August 18, 2015 No, she knows that she will be approached by several guys and can afford to wait for someone she finds more interesting or attractive. Ive been in situations where at the time a girl seemed attractive enough but next day im thinking, meh. Sometimes you lose yourself in the music, the moment When you put it like that it actually makes sense
Lansing Posted August 19, 2015 Posted August 19, 2015 I havent called. I just texted her, told her who I was and told her that I enjoyed my time with her the other day. We also didnt talk about meeting up again. Weak text in my opinion. Better to just straight out ask the girl instead of they "I enjoyed meeting" you route. Sme girls just don't know how to respond to that. 1
Author Yyes Posted August 19, 2015 Author Posted August 19, 2015 Weak text in my opinion. Better to just straight out ask the girl instead of they "I enjoyed meeting" you route. Sme girls just don't know how to respond to that. Well thats good to know. She was being really insecure that night and telling me her insecurities about being old and not being fit. This was weird because she was pretty fit and had a banging body so my friends say that shes probably too embarrassed because she acted a fool that night but idk. I should have asked her out then and there. 1
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