struggling to delete ex on facebook

[seasickpeeve]

It's been about a month since he ended the relationship and about two/three weeks of no contact. I have deleted his number, past messages, emails and I'm slowly getting id of things in my home that remind me of the relationship. I no longer have any desire to contact him as I feel silly for trying to fight for the relationship at the end and really angry about how cold he was. I am also very angry at things he said and did in the last year of the four year relationship and know I need a long time to get over that stuff.

 

But I am finding it super hard to delete him from my facebook. He doesn't post on there so I don't have to worry about him popping up any time soon with details of his life. He does go on a few times a week to read other peoples posts though.

 

I'm worried that if I delete him it will tell him I am hurt and angry and don't want to speak to him again. I'm worried this will stop him from ever being in touch, even in a friendly way, which eventually I'd like.

 

I'm worried it will make things more awkward when I do eventually see him as I am sure we will bump into each other at some point in our small town.

 

But I am worried I am just holding onto the last line of contact and that deleting him would help me take control of my own recovery somehow.

 

I know alot on here think totally blocking the ex is the way to go. I suppose I'm just wondering which way is best. I don't want to delete and send the message that I am angry and bitter (even though I kinda am!)

 

Advice/thoughts please.

[Yummm]

I know exactly how you feel.

 

It took me a month to delete my ex from my phone and facebook, it was so hard, but it had to be done.

 

Once you do it, you feel like you have some sort of 'finality', you will be hurt at first but then it's like a MASSIVE weight has been taken off your shoulders. You feel in control, you don't feel like you're under your ex's spell. The world is now your oyster and it's time for you to move forward.

 

You should not worry what he thinks if you do this, it's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of power. You need to delete him in order to heal and it proves that you care about yourself.

 

You know what to do.. just do it, go on, you know it's the right thing, routing for you!

[Mrin]

I know exactly how you feel.

 

It took me a month to delete my ex from my phone and facebook, it was so hard, but it had to be done.

 

Once you do it, you feel like you have some sort of 'finality', you will be hurt at first but then it's like a MASSIVE weight has been taken off your shoulders. You feel in control, you don't feel like you're under your ex's spell. The world is now your oyster and it's time for you to move forward.

 

You should not worry what he thinks if you do this, it's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of power. You need to delete him in order to heal and it proves that you care about yourself.

 

You know what to do.. just do it, go on, you know it's the right thing, routing for you!

 

So much truth in the bolded section above. You'll find that an incredible amount of wight has been lifted from your shoulders.

[Jimmyjackson]

Ignorance is bliss.

[seasickpeeve]

I know I have him still on there to

 

a.) show him I am open to being contacted

 

b.) show him what an amazing life I'm having without him and how great I am in the hopes it will make leaving me harder.

 

Both seem pretty desperate wrote down and show I am just thinking of him - what he is thinking and feeling.

 

But I also know that when an ex that I finished vanished from my facebook I took it as he never wants to hear from me again. It also meant I didn't think of him or have regrets in the way I did when I could see other ex's getting on fine without me. It always kept some of my interest in them when they were still about in the background.

 

I'm trying to keep his interest and some contact.

 

I can't decide if this is a bad thing or not.

[Jimmyjackson]

I know I have him still on there to

 

a.) show him I am open to being contacted

 

b.) show him what an amazing life I'm having without him and how great I am in the hopes it will make leaving me harder.

 

Both seem pretty desperate wrote down and show I am just thinking of him - what he is thinking and feeling.

 

But I also know that when an ex that I finished vanished from my facebook I took it as he never wants to hear from me again. It also meant I didn't think of him or have regrets in the way I did when I could see other ex's getting on fine without me. It always kept some of my interest in them when they were still about in the background.

 

I'm trying to keep his interest and some contact.

 

I can't decide if this is a bad thing or not.

 

I understand where you are coming from but to be honest he probably seldom looks on your profile.

 

Why not go have this "amazing" life without posting it on social media? If anything not posting anything at all is probably more beneficial because he might wonder why you're inactive...too busy having a good time?

 

If you can't muster the strength to delete him then why not just hide his posts for now, see how you get on? My friend did this with his ex and it worked for him.

[seasickpeeve]

I haven't really been on facebook and don't use it that often. It wouldn't be hard for me not to go on there for awhile or post anything.

 

I think I'm more thinking into the future, that I want to keep a future line of contact and a way for him to feel he can still be in touch.

 

I know it all sounds silly and desperate and it is embarrassing to write about even.

 

I think because he has disappeared from my life I'm trying to say 'I'M HERE. HELLO!'. But he probably doesn't care whether I'm there or not.

[Jimmyjackson]

I haven't really been on facebook and don't use it that often. It wouldn't be hard for me not to go on there for awhile or post anything.

 

I think I'm more thinking into the future, that I want to keep a future line of contact and a way for him to feel he can still be in touch.

 

I know it all sounds silly and desperate and it is embarrassing to write about even.

 

I think because he has disappeared from my life I'm trying to say 'I'M HERE. HELLO!'. But he probably doesn't care whether I'm there or not.

 

It is desperate but I've also been in that frame of mind myself, so I know how your thought process is right now.

 

He probably doesn't you're right, he might look occasionally out of curiosity but that's about it.

 

Even if you delete him, if he wants to open the lines of communication in the future he will. Whether you delete him or not, he can still message/email you etc.

[aloneinaz]

You don't need to delete him, you need to block him so he can't see your profile nor can you see his. This doesn't have anything to do w/him, what so ever. He has to do with you and your moving on. Out of sight, out of mind.

 

 

Like the others, I felt RELIEF when I blocked my last ex. I knew I could no longer see her posts or if she was online. It really did help and reinforced that I was moving on, which I did.

 

 

You're thinking is flawed BTW. Whether you block him or not on FB, it wouldn't have ANY impact on whether he wants to contact you in the future or not. You're reading into that way too much. "If" he noticed you blocked him, he'd actually think "damn, she really is moving on" and you'd look more attractive to him vs. hanging onto him being a friend.

[seasickpeeve]

You're probably right. But...

 

The ex that deleted me I saw as bitter and hurt and it put me off speaking to him again. It made things really awkward because I assumed forever more that he was too hurt to handle any interaction.

 

The ex that stayed on there I enjoy seeing his accomplishments and chat every now and then and I genuinely like him. It made me think he was mature and didn't care for me all that much.

 

I suppose I'm over thinking how the ex will view it. In reality he might not even notice for awhile haha!

[seasickpeeve]

I'm over thinking about the effects on him. I should be thinking what is best for me. I get it now a bit better, thanks.

 

Because I embarrassed myself during the break up I'm trying to save face a little bit to him and mutual friends. I sort of feel that deleting would look like I'm angry and hurt...

 

But I am angry and hurt so I should prob just do it anyway!

[Jimmyjackson]

You're probably right. But...

 

The ex that deleted me I saw as bitter and hurt and it put me off speaking to him again. It made things really awkward because I assumed forever more that he was too hurt to handle any interaction.

 

The ex that stayed on there I enjoy seeing his accomplishments and chat every now and then and I genuinely like him. It made me think he was mature and didn't care for me all that much.

 

I suppose I'm over thinking how the ex will view it. In reality he might not even notice for awhile haha!

 

Well if deleting your ex deters him from possibly contacting you for reconciliation, he wouldn't be worth it would he? if that's all it takes...

[gls081209]

You're thinking about this all wrong. Having no contact means knowing NOTHING about him. That benefits YOU and your healing and has nothing to do with him. Not to be rude, but it does seem slightly desperate if you're posting about how great things are in an attempt to show him what he's missing. Most people can see right through that and it can cause some unnecessary drama, make you look bitter and prolong your pain.

 

I just completely deactivated on Facebook to avoid all of it. I said I'd give myself a month off and then I'll just block the ex until I feel okay to just delete him.

 

I know you said that you didn't want to block him for fear that it gave him the message you didn't want to talk. Can you ask yourself what good would be in talking to him? I ask myself that too as I secretly want my ex to contact me. I realize it would only cause more pain.

 

Finally, I suspect that if someone really wants to contact you - he will, regardless of whether or not you blocked him on Facebook.

 

I know, I know, it's easy to say. Just lay low, keep busy and live in the present moment (I read that somewhere). I'm still struggling to take my own advice too...

[seasickpeeve]

The line about posting about an amazing life was tongue in cheek, and was more about in future I'd like to think of him as seeing me getting on fine and thinking 'good on her' and me feeling the same about him. It's because I have that with an ex, I really enjoy seeing how he's grown and even felt good seeing him with somebody new. It's not that I'm sat on facebook right now thinking of status' I can create to get his attention. He doesn't really go on there much and I know he's probably not even looking.

 

I'm more scared of getting rid of him forever, completely and sending the 'no to friendship' signal.

 

I'm fantasising about a time in the future that we have some contact and I know the most likely way is through FB.......which makes cutting this last tie very very very hard.

 

I've been hovering over the delete button for about two days now.

 

I'm gonna take FB app off my phone and stay off it till I can think rationally.

 

I'm stuck because if I delete I'm doing it in anger and might regret it if I feel friendly towards him in future.

 

If I keep him on it's out of desperation that he is going to one day reach out.

 

I'm not ignoring the advice, I am literally feeling stuck on this last lil thing.

 

Good news though.....I was going to send the clothes he left to his home. I've just binned them because I knew I was doing it to be overly nice. He hasn't asked for them, he hasn't sent my things over so they went in the bin. It felt good!

[aloneinaz]

 

 

 

Good news though.....I was going to send the clothes he left to his home. I've just binned them because I knew I was doing it to be overly nice. He hasn't asked for them, he hasn't sent my things over so they went in the bin. It felt good!

 

 

 

Ok Hun,

 

 

This is reinforcing to us that you're "clinging" to any hope of contact or reconciliation with him. You will NOT move forward, heal and then onto your next great R/S if you don't put finality to this dead one.

 

 

You mentioned you have mutual friends. Gather his things up. Ask them to drop them off and pick you things up. You want everything resolved when a R/S end. You immediately return each other things, wish each other good luck and vanish.

 

 

Here, I'm going to help you! PM your Facebook info and I'll sign in and block his butt for you!

 

 

BTW, most people do block there fresh ex until they heal and move on. I did after my last ex and then unblocked her many months later when I'd moved on and had a new girlfriend. I'm not friends with her on their either.

[seasickpeeve]

After the break up I sent a text asking if he wanted me to drop his clothes off somewhere and he didn't reply. In a short phone call we had I asked again and he said 'they don't matter'. I was going to post them today so gathered them up....there are just a pair of shorts a T-shirt and some underwear....and then I realised that I was going out of my way to be the 'nice ex girlfriend' yet he had ended the relationship in a cold harsh way. So I threw them and feel better for it. I've done my bit.

 

I've never asked for my stuff back, he's never offered and I'd rather not be in touch for something like that. I'm happy if he throws those.

 

I agree, I would have much rather have exchanged stuff early on. I was up for keeping things civil but it is the way he just vanished that has left me angry. There was no need for that as at first I took things in a calm way. It's when he vanished I then got hurt and angry. I have a son so was trying to be in touch to sort out a goodbye for him.

 

Alot of this stems from me always trying to be the 'good' 'nice' person in all situations and thinking too much about others feelings. I'm also pretty sure I'll see him again soon and I'm trying to hold my upset and anger in so we can be friendly when we see each other so it isn't awkward for anyone around or too upsetting for me. I'm worried deleting him will send an angry message out there.

 

I'm absolutely not over it and wouldn't expect to be after a month. This is going to take a long time.

 

I spoke to a friend yesterday about it and she said 'when are you going to stop being a nice and get angry?'.

 

I can't bring myself to feel angry for long enough to delete him. Just sat around waiting for him to be my friend! It's really pathetic

[seasickpeeve]

Oh ****. I've just 'unfriended'. So it's all done now. Pretty much everything of 'us' is now gone apart from a few pics on my comp and a necklace he gave me as a gift.

 

Something as silly as me 'unfriending' made me feel sick.

 

I just followed the better judgement of friends and strangers and dared myself to do it.

 

He really wasn't that nice to me in the end. It's silly to want his friendship even :/

[Learningtowalkagain]

You'll get over it.

 

First thing I did when I found out my ex was dating someone else was unfriend her, her family and any friends I met through her on FB, then deleted her number, then our text conversation. We were broken up for 6 months and still communicated and were friendly and I had the whole "we can stay friends" thought too and we did the drunk text thing every now and again but as soon as I saw she was dating someone else I had to move on.

 

I heard she was butthurt I unfriended her. I don't care. Neither should you. Like others have said YOU need to heal. He may not go on FB a lot but what if he starts to see someone else and he's tagged in a pic with her and you see it? It's gonna sting, take it from someone who just went through it.

[Jimmyjackson]

Oh ****. I've just 'unfriended'. So it's all done now. Pretty much everything of 'us' is now gone apart from a few pics on my comp and a necklace he gave me as a gift.

 

Something as silly as me 'unfriending' made me feel sick.

 

I just followed the better judgement of friends and strangers and dared myself to do it.

 

He really wasn't that nice to me in the end. It's silly to want his friendship even :/

 

Why did you guys break up? I mean what do you gain from being friends with an ex anyway? Friends talk about intimate things such as other girl/boys etc.

 

Also, remember that you deleted him, it's not like he's been erased from existence. A lot of people seem to think not being friends on Facebook is the end of the world, it's only social media, not real life. You'll feel better in a week or so I think.

[aloneinaz]

After the break up I sent a text asking if he wanted me to drop his clothes off somewhere and he didn't reply. In a short phone call we had I asked again and he said 'they don't matter'. I was going to post them today so gathered them up....there are just a pair of shorts a T-shirt and some underwear....and then I realised that I was going out of my way to be the 'nice ex girlfriend' yet he had ended the relationship in a cold harsh way. So I threw them and feel better for it. I've done my bit.

 

I've never asked for my stuff back, he's never offered and I'd rather not be in touch for something like that. I'm happy if he throws those.

 

I agree, I would have much rather have exchanged stuff early on. I was up for keeping things civil but it is the way he just vanished that has left me angry. There was no need for that as at first I took things in a calm way. It's when he vanished I then got hurt and angry. I have a son so was trying to be in touch to sort out a goodbye for him.

 

Alot of this stems from me always trying to be the 'good' 'nice' person in all situations and thinking too much about others feelings. I'm also pretty sure I'll see him again soon and I'm trying to hold my upset and anger in so we can be friendly when we see each other so it isn't awkward for anyone around or too upsetting for me. I'm worried deleting him will send an angry message out there.

 

I'm absolutely not over it and wouldn't expect to be after a month. This is going to take a long time.

 

I spoke to a friend yesterday about it and she said 'when are you going to stop being a nice and get angry?'.

 

I can't bring myself to feel angry for long enough to delete him. Just sat around waiting for him to be my friend! It's really pathetic

 

I understand your line of thinking but you need to accept he doesn't want you in his life anymore. So, you give it to him. That's why I blocked my ex after we broke up and insured only friends could see anything on my FB. What I was doing, what pictures I posted, where none of her business. I also had no aspirations to know ANYTHING about her life either. I wanted to heal and move on. That was my main goal. I wanted no further contact w/some who kicked me out of her life.

 

 

Glad you defriended him. It a great step for you to start your future. It's also good that you threw his stuff out and don't care to have your stuff back. A funny story, a couple of months after that last ex and I broke up, I found a pair of her sunglasses under the seat of my car. They were probably $50 dollar glasses. I childishly broke them up in my hands and pitched them in the garbage. Yea, it felt good! lol

 

 

At a month, you shouldn't be over it. But.. you should do all the right things to get you there like NC, blocking, etc.. You're on your way!

[seasickpeeve]

Why did you guys break up? I mean what do you gain from being friends with an ex anyway? Friends talk about intimate things such as other girl/boys etc.

 

Also, remember that you deleted him, it's not like he's been erased from existence. A lot of people seem to think not being friends on Facebook is the end of the world, it's only social media, not real life. You'll feel better in a week or so I think.

 

We were together four years, but the last year he kept saying things like 'I want to be single' and 'i'm not in love with you' and leaving but then coming back the next day and apologising and saying he's depressed and it wasn't me. The cycle of that caused a kind of dependency in me and insecurity and clingy-ness I hadn't had before.....It was confusing as hell for me because the words he said meant he wanted out but his actions i.e staying with me, planning holidays, looking at houses together, saying he loved me etc said a different story. He'd also become an angry person when for years before he hadn't been.

 

I finally spoke and said we couldn't live like that and suggested distance whilst he works out what he's actually wanting. He came and made a tearful apology saying he just wasn't happy, that it wasn't me and he just needed to sort his life out.

 

Things were fine and then a month later he created an argument and screamed he didn't want to be with me and wanted to be single. I thought he was doing his old routine again so left him to calm down. When I went to get in touch the next day he had his phone switched off and he didn't reply to any texts. I left it a week and then called. He said he'd created the argument because he wanted to end it. His only reason was he wanted to be single. I was upset and said I wanted a break not a break up because I felt after he had told me he was depressed and needed to sort things in his life, and he had told me he loved me the day before, that all that was needed was some space and time.

 

I'd told him in the phone call I was anxious about us being at the same university and in the same small town going to alot of the same places and that I would like to be on friendly terms to help us both and mutual friends if we all bump into each other. He said he would be in touch to 'smooth things over for uni'.

 

I haven't heard anything since and I don't want to contact him. I'm just anxious about seeing him after how he ended it. I wanted to swallow my hurt down and try act fine whenever I see him next but at the moment that is not possible.

 

I don't mean I want to be his best friend! I mean I want to be on a friendly level with him as I have managed to with some ex's. I see that as mature and makes life easier. I know I will see him again. It makes me anxious that because of the ending we will not be able to speak like normal people who like each other. I still think he's a great person. I just simply wanted our overlapping lives to run smoothly afterwards. I think it's ****ty when after a long term relationship full of love you can't message every now and then to see how they are.

 

Facebook isn't a big deal to either of us BUT it was the last tie to him. That is a big deal. And I've just cut it. It doesn't feel good at all doing that because I am so emotionally attached to him..... it felt like I am rejecting him!!!

 

I've just never slammed a door on anyone before but I've got to remember he slammed the door and then bolted it!

[Jimmyjackson]

We were together four years, but the last year he kept saying things like 'I want to be single' and 'i'm not in love with you' and leaving but then coming back the next day and apologising and saying he's depressed and it wasn't me. The cycle of that caused a kind of dependency in me and insecurity and clingy-ness I hadn't had before.....It was confusing as hell for me because the words he said meant he wanted out but his actions i.e staying with me, planning holidays, looking at houses together, saying he loved me etc said a different story. He'd also become an angry person when for years before he hadn't been.

 

I finally spoke and said we couldn't live like that and suggested distance whilst he works out what he's actually wanting. He came and made a tearful apology saying he just wasn't happy, that it wasn't me and he just needed to sort his life out.

 

Things were fine and then a month later he created an argument and screamed he didn't want to be with me and wanted to be single. I thought he was doing his old routine again so left him to calm down. When I went to get in touch the next day he had his phone switched off and he didn't reply to any texts. I left it a week and then called. He said he'd created the argument because he wanted to end it. His only reason was he wanted to be single. I was upset and said I wanted a break not a break up because I felt after he had told me he was depressed and needed to sort things in his life, and he had told me he loved me the day before, that all that was needed was some space and time.

 

I'd told him in the phone call I was anxious about us being at the same university and in the same small town going to alot of the same places and that I would like to be on friendly terms to help us both and mutual friends if we all bump into each other. He said he would be in touch to 'smooth things over for uni'.

 

I haven't heard anything since and I don't want to contact him. I'm just anxious about seeing him after how he ended it. I wanted to swallow my hurt down and try act fine whenever I see him next but at the moment that is not possible.

 

I don't mean I want to be his best friend! I mean I want to be on a friendly level with him as I have managed to with some ex's. I see that as mature and makes life easier. I know I will see him again. It makes me anxious that because of the ending we will not be able to speak like normal people who like each other. I still think he's a great person. I just simply wanted our overlapping lives to run smoothly afterwards. I think it's ****ty when after a long term relationship full of love you can't message every now and then to see how they are.

 

Facebook isn't a big deal to either of us BUT it was the last tie to him. That is a big deal. And I've just cut it. It doesn't feel good at all doing that because I am so emotionally attached to him..... it felt like I am rejecting him!!!

 

I've just never slammed a door on anyone before but I've got to remember he slammed the door and then bolted it!

 

It seems to me he did what he wanted and you let him. I suppose theres nothing you can do now but if I were you and he said stuff like "I want to be single" ...I would have just said "fine, go be single". In those situations its best to be passive aggressive and gain the upper hand, make him wonder why you're so cool about it all etc. But suppose it's something you can take into your next relationship maybe, we all learn stuff and would go about things differently, I know I would.

 

I understand that but like I said, IF and I'm not saying he would but if he wanted to contact you I'm sure he would despite it saying "add friend" - if he really wanted to that is. My ex randomly deleted me on facebook, and first I was confused and upset but after not seeing her at the top of my 'sidebar' anymore etc, I started to feel a lot better not knowing if she was online.

 

So what if you were rejecting him? He rejected you a lot of times by the sounds of it. You have to do what's best for yourself, being selfish is a good thing.

[seasickpeeve]

It seems to me he did what he wanted and you let him. I suppose theres nothing you can do now but if I were you and he said stuff like "I want to be single" ...I would have just said "fine, go be single". In those situations its best to be passive aggressive and gain the upper hand, make him wonder why you're so cool about it all etc. But suppose it's something you can take into your next relationship maybe, we all learn stuff and would go about things differently, I know I would.

 

I understand that but like I said, IF and I'm not saying he would but if he wanted to contact you I'm sure he would despite it saying "add friend" - if he really wanted to that is. My ex randomly deleted me on facebook, and first I was confused and upset but after not seeing her at the top of my 'sidebar' anymore etc, I started to feel a lot better not knowing if she was online.

 

So what if you were rejecting him? He rejected you a lot of times by the sounds of it. You have to do what's best for yourself, being selfish is a good thing.

 

It became a very unhealthy cycle. He left = I chased. He felt guilty for leaving= he got angry = I got sad = he felt more guilty = he ran = I chased.

 

Yes the chasing bit seems crazy in hindsight but believe me when you are in this confusing situation and he comes back and tells you he loves you and he is depressed and it's not you it's him etc. you exhaust yourself chasing after them. You have been put in 'rescuer' mode and run around trying to 'save' everything. He gave me just enough......but not much at all.

 

I was too in love, too exhausted, too confused to leave. So I would say 'if you don't love me, if you are not in love with me, if we don't want the same things then please just leave' and he'd stay.

 

I actually view it as a type of abuse now to say 'i'm not in love with you' and stay knowing the other person is. It destroyed all my confidence in my own judgement. If I ever hear that said to me again I will believe them the first time they say it!

 

Thanks people. Just got to start the task of cleaning him from my mind now.

[Jimmyjackson]

It became a very unhealthy cycle. He left = I chased. He felt guilty for leaving= he got angry = I got sad = he felt more guilty = he ran = I chased.

 

Yes the chasing bit seems crazy in hindsight but believe me when you are in this confusing situation and he comes back and tells you he loves you and he is depressed and it's not you it's him etc. you exhaust yourself chasing after them. You have been put in 'rescuer' mode and run around trying to 'save' everything. He gave me just enough......but not much at all.

 

I was too in love, too exhausted, too confused to leave. So I would say 'if you don't love me, if you are not in love with me, if we don't want the same things then please just leave' and he'd stay.

 

I actually view it as a type of abuse now to say 'i'm not in love with you' and stay knowing the other person is. It destroyed all my confidence in my own judgement. If I ever hear that said to me again I will believe them the first time they say it!

 

Thanks people. Just got to start the task of cleaning him from my mind now.

 

Yeah I know, I chased for a month when my ex and I started going downhill so I know how it feels. You think that chasing will save it but it actually has the opposite effect which you don't realise. At least we both know now?

 

"I love you" is thrown around easy, it's just words...people say things all the time they don't mean because it's easy to say anything when you think about it in that sense.

[seasickpeeve]

He was very non committal in his words all the time. The clues were there.

 

him - 'i love you'

'are you in love with me?'

'i don't know what the difference is'

'oh come on!'

'well saying it would be a bit of a risk'

'thats what people in love do!'

'ok then, I must be'

 

and

 

me - 'I think I want children in the future. Do you think you want to...with me?'

'yeah maybe if the time was right. I'd love to have children with you'

A month later...

him - 'I'm not bothered about having children'

'really? never?'

'maybe I will. I dunno'

 

and

 

him - 'I think we should live together and be a proper couple'

'ok. do you like this house?'

'no'

'this one?'

'no'

'but I thought you wanted to live together?!'

'it has to be the right house'

 

The signs were there looking back but I was/am in love and held onto the breadcrumbs.

 

My excuse was I was in love. Love makes fools of us all. I have no idea what his excuse could be. Why would somebody do that?!

 

It's the hardest thing. I'm still so confused. I have no idea why he was with me so long just throwing out breadcrumbs all over the place!