ktn21 Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Hello, Long story short: I met this girl(25 yrs old)(I'm 21 yrs old) at the concert, she showed a lot of interest in me, eye-contact and bodylanguage, touched my hands and also gave many hints. Wanted to talk to me. So we got to know each other and danced a bit, btw she was sober. later at night, when I went home, she sent me a friendrequest in fb. I accepted it next morning. few days later I asked her out via phone. We had a great date, we had a picnic, went to beach and watched the sunset. We bonded very well, laughed and she gave me many hints that she likes me and asked a lot of questions. When I asked about boys, she mentioned, that she dosen't have no one in mind, hinted that she was very available for me. We also kissed and cuddled later at night. Oh and during the date, before we got to the kissing part, she even asked me if I wanted to join her and her friends the next day at the beach. Here's the problem... So the next day came, but she didn't call to invite me, so few hours later I called her myself to ask about when we are supposed to go. Apparently she was already in the beach and told me, that she is leaving soon. So I was like okay, mabye another day then. The next day she invited me to her own apartment to watch a movie at night. So I was like: "Yeah why not", then few hours later she tells me that, she is afraid that she can't make it on time, she has to finish some things first at work. Then I ask her, "Okay, when I can see you then"? Then she lays her schedule out: tomorrow I'm doing this and then that and couple of days later I'm going there for a week, and then on a trip..." Then she tells me that she is going home for three days to visit her parents, and asks me if I wanted to join her. Then once again I accept. But the next day she changes her mind, because she has something she has to fix in her apartment, and some siblings are coming to visit her. But she says that tomorrow we should go watch that new movie in Cinema. Then again I told her " Yeah, fine...". But the next day she tells me that she is going to some festival. What the hell is going on? I mean, the flakiness just seems so unreal. At some point she seems to be interested, but then again... Usually when a girl is not interested, she definitly won't invite me out all the time! Often the causes of flakes usually are: 1) Lack of interest 2) Mood change 3) Attention seeking 4) Fear of rejection 5) Playing hard to get So I politely asked her, what's the deal. At some point I can see that you are interested, but then again there is a lot of talking but no action. Have you lost interest? Or do you have someone else in mind? "No, I dont have no one else in mind. It's difficult with me, because I ALWAYS have something I need to do. I only get one weekend of vacation this summer, which ends tomorrow. So I try to do as much as I can." What do you think about it?
h0000 Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 She flakes. What else do you need to think? Cut it. She always has something to do? I'm sure you are busy yourself as well
Omei Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 (edited) She may be telling the truth about her interest but... She sounds like one of those people who makes plans with friends but if a better option that sounds more fun or that they can benefit from more they ditch they plans they made to do that instead that's what I think is going on here. its hard to have relationships or friendships with this type because they always let you down because to them your just always an option for them never a priority. It really diminishes personal connections, bet she doesnt have any friends she could truly count on herself. Edited August 17, 2015 by Omei 1
cessna Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 No one is that busy. I could accept a change of plan once but not four or five consecutive times. I wouldn't waste another second on this bird, she'll just keep letting you down and you'll just keep feeding her ego.
xcupid Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 You either see if what she says is true and see if she flakes again or just move on. You've put up with a lot of cancellations already. If it were me I'd give it one more try and then if she flakes, block and delete.
Diezel Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Whenever she talks to you, tell her about this new girl who you are going out with that never flakes and you are totally into. That or ignore her. Problem solved.
scorpiogirl Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 Ignore. It could be that she really does have things to do but as said above, she'd still make time if she really wanted to see you. She would be worried about you slipping through her fingers and make time, but she's not. I'd say don't even give her one more chance.
menyou Posted August 18, 2015 Posted August 18, 2015 seriously, if someone has no time for you, why would you waste your time on them? move on...
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