mishy Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Just want your thoughts on this one.. If you are told after three months by your boyfriend those words "I need space" is it just a prelude to breaking up in the not so distant future? Do guys say that when they are thinking about an eventual break up?? Anyone had this happen to them?? Please help
Devildog Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Odds are pretty good that yeah, he is probably gonna ask for a break in the near future. And more than likely when you hear those words it is either someone else they are interested in, or they are feeling the situation isn't right. But 99.999999999% of the time you can expect a break-up in the near future.
Author mishy Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 he has a platonic female friend who has always been interested in him. Recently sh told him that she doesn't have any feelings for him anymore - and i'm thinking that maybe he is actually interested in HER now that she says she's not interested in him. When he mean't space he was talking about me not spending so much time at his house and spending more time at my own place- we had virtually moved in together as soon as we met
Devildog Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 How long have you been together? If it has been a short term relationship, a few months or so, it could be the space thing, moving too fast. But I would be wary of the female friend. That doesn't sound promising to me.
Author mishy Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 seeing each other for 3 months-pretty much moved in in the 2nd week we have big blow ups because we don't get things out in the open and let tension build up
Devildog Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 No offense, but it sounds like this relationship might have a lot of problems and very little chance of long term possibilities. As hard as it is to hear, you might be better off finding out now and being able to move on to a new relationship before things get too deep.
Author mishy Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 he said that he wants space but says that he loves me and wants to be with me always - if he says that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me then asking for space is a little odd
Author mishy Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 in the beginning, like in the first week he told me that he might get to the stage where he needs space because he is used to living alone
Author mishy Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 but yeah you are right - there is little hope for us- thanks a lot for your advice- we got too involved too quickly
Devildog Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 There are some situations where things start out fast and last a lifetime. But yeah, generally, if things go too fast, they will probably not work out well. Best to let things develop slowly instead of rushing into anything. There are just too many things about each other that takes time to learn.
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