Arda199 Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 So my Ex dumped me from out of the blue and i've been on strict NC for over 2 months i've started to forget her or at least it doesn't matter anymore. The thing is my ex have been asking EVERY SINGLE PERSON I KNOW if i ever talk to them about her or if i miss her and if i'm in a RS with anyone. SHE EVEN WENT AND ASKED ONE OF THE GIRLS I'VE DATED DURING THE NC. Also her friends have been acting weird lately by bringing my ex into the subject every time i talk to them and telling me she likes someone (which i told my ex how much i hate him back when we where together). Its not like i'm looking to reconciliation or want her back GOD NO. i just find it very confusing when she's looking for me like i have her paycheck when she's the one who dumped me for no obvious reason. 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Ask her friends to please never bring her up because you are still trying to heal from the breakup. If they do it again tell them it's inappropriate as you have asked them nicely to never bring her up anymore. Why are you talking to her friends anyway? 1
aloneinaz Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 So my Ex dumped me from out of the blue and i've been on strict NC for over 2 months i've started to forget her or at least it doesn't matter anymore. The thing is my ex have been asking EVERY SINGLE PERSON I KNOW if i ever talk to them about her or if i miss her and if i'm in a RS with anyone. SHE EVEN WENT AND ASKED ONE OF THE GIRLS I'VE DATED DURING THE NC. Also her friends have been acting weird lately by bringing my ex into the subject every time i talk to them and telling me she likes someone (which i told my ex how much i hate him back when we where together). Its not like i'm looking to reconciliation or want her back GOD NO. i just find it very confusing when she's looking for me like i have her paycheck when she's the one who dumped me for no obvious reason. Congrat on sticking to NC for two months! That's awesome. Now, stick with it and DON'T engage with any conversations about this ex. If someone brings her up to you, smile and say "listen, I don't want to hear or talk about her, she's my past and I'm onto my future". Then change the subject. I also don't get why you're talking to her friends? When my last ex and I ended, her friends where BLOCKED on my Facebook and I had NO aspirations to talk to them again. 2
Author Arda199 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Posted August 16, 2015 Ask her friends to please never bring her up because you are still trying to heal from the breakup. If they do it again tell them it's inappropriate as you have asked them nicely to never bring her up anymore. Why are you talking to her friends anyway? They are the usually the one who come to me talk about something or asking for help with anything 1
Author Arda199 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Posted August 16, 2015 Congrat on sticking to NC for two months! That's awesome. Now, stick with it and DON'T engage with any conversations about this ex. If someone brings her up to you, smile and say "listen, I don't want to hear or talk about her, she's my past and I'm onto my future". Then change the subject. I also don't get why you're talking to her friends? When my last ex and I ended, her friends where BLOCKED on my Facebook and I had NO aspirations to talk to them again. I started to think that my ex is the one who sends them to talk to me :/ 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 I started to think that my ex is the one who sends them to talk to me :/ So, send them back. There's no reason to be talking to her friends. Move on with your life. 1
Author Arda199 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Posted August 16, 2015 So, send them back. There's no reason to be talking to her friends. Move on with your life. but why is she doing this ? when she broke up with me she told me that it's done and she don't want to her from me ever again, and now she's asking everyone about me ? 3
Simon Phoenix Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 but why is she doing this ? when she broke up with me she told me that it's done and she don't want to her from me ever again, and now she's asking everyone about me ? Why does it matter? If you truly want to move forward, than this is a completely irrelevant question to ask. There could be a variety of reasons she's doing this, but none of them are remotely relevant to your life. 3
Satu Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 but why is she doing this ? when she broke up with me she told me that it's done and she don't want to her from me ever again, and now she's asking everyone about me ? It doesn't matter why she does it. Tell her friends that you're not interested. 1
aloneinaz Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 but why is she doing this ? when she broke up with me she told me that it's done and she don't want to her from me ever again, and now she's asking everyone about me ? Because you've finally started ignoring her and are moving on with your life. She's curious as to why your not begging, pleading and stroking her ego. As Simon said, WHO CARES.. Avoid her friends and don't engage with them. Worry about you and moving onto your next great R/S when you're ready. 2
Author Arda199 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Posted August 16, 2015 yeah you guys are probably right I shouldn't give it any attention if i really want to move on with my life 1
Trishern Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 I started to think that my ex is the one who sends them to talk to me :/ Tell them, you don't want to hear anything about her. Period. It's over and your moving on. She's obviously trying to get you jealous and still has a thing for you. Mrs T
Author Arda199 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Posted August 16, 2015 Tell them, you don't want to hear anything about her. Period. It's over and your moving on. She's obviously trying to get you jealous and still has a thing for you. Mrs T i think she only wants to know if i've moved on or if i'm still crying over her just to feed her ego 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 17, 2015 Posted August 17, 2015 i think she only wants to know if i've moved on or if i'm still crying over her just to feed her ego You nailed it, that's exactly what she's doing. Don't give her any more power over you. Depriving her of information will drive her crazy. 1
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