Why would a guy start to text me less now that we've had sex? Or so it seems?

[veronicalawrence]

I've been dating this guy for a little while now. Everything seems to be going great. We talk about everything and anything, and seem to be both very happy around each other. Whenever we see each other, he will pick me up and always drop me home. Little things I've noticed, for example if we are out together and someone is looking at me, he will push his chest out and sort of walk in front of me to show dominance. He will at times order my meal for me and I will sit back. Or he will make sure that he picks me up for most things, even if I need to go food shopping, he will suggest picking me up. He talks about where I live, and exactly which apartment which could be him implying that he wants to come in and meet my family. He will open the door for me, hold my bags and do whatever to make me feel comfortable. For example, we go and watch a movie, he will always bring a cardigan, just in case I get cold. We normally text every day for quite some time and he usually initiates most conversations telling me good morning or asking how I've slept, how my day has been, when we can catch up etc. We see each other quite a few times a week. He has showed me signs that he is very serious about me, and regularly includes me in his plans for the future.

 

About 2 months into dating, we decided to sleep with each other. That night, which was Wednesday, he seemed to have cummed pretty quickly yet also made sure he pleased me, we cuddled for some time after that and then slept. I actually got my period that night unfortunately and he made sure we got everything we needed from the shops and then had something to eat. He took me out to dinner that night in which we had our usual good time, he spoke what he wants in a relationship, his views on marriage, what he wants in 5 years which is to have a family and be married. Then asked what mine are. We then went back to watch some movies and relaxed. He had to be somewhere by the morning, so he dropped me home. When he dropped me home, he said that he was going to miss me and I didn't quite understand what he meant. Normally when he drops me home, we sort of organise when we're going to meet next. I asked out of curiosity and he said he will be away for a few days but will let me know when he's back. The next morning, he texted me asking how I slept. His replies were pretty causal. I replied to keep the conversation going, and then it stopped. It went back to normal the next morning, however stopped pretty quickly. He told me that he was back in town and I told him that it was good to hear, I sent that last night and I've heard nothing since. Although I did see him online tonight. Am I silly to be worrying about this? Meaning, is he really not texting me less, it's just me thinking that?

[Gaeta]

Like I said in your last thread. I suspect this man is in a relationship and you are being played. Now he got sex he's giving you a slow fade away.

 

Do you know where he lives? Has he ever driven in front of his home with you and say 'this is where I live'?

[veronicalawrence]

What do you suggest I do now? If he asks to catch up, what do I do? Should I confront him?

[Gaeta]

What do you suggest I do now? If he asks to catch up, what do I do? Should I confront him?

 

Veronica: Answer my question please. You did the same in your other thread, people were asking tons of questions and you never answered any.

 

Do you know where he lives?

[veronicalawrence]

I don't know exactly where he lives no.

[Gaeta]

Have a conversation with him.

 

Tell him you've been dating for 2 months it's time for you to see where he lives.

 

What culture is he from?

[veronicalawrence]

Okay, sounds good. That's if we'll ever catch up again.. You've got me worried, but I do appreciate your honesty. He's Asian.

[Gaeta]

Okay, sounds good. That's if we'll ever catch up again.. You've got me worried, but I do appreciate your honesty. He's Asian.

 

I still think this man is in a relationship. He is Asian from what country? Makes a big difference culture wise. Is he a new immigrant in your country?

[veronicalawrence]

He's Chinese. Not an immigrant no.

[newmoon]

Have a conversation with him.

 

Tell him you've been dating for 2 months it's time for you to see where he lives.

 

What culture is he from?

 

so funny, as i read the story i was wondering about the culture here. i don't know why, but somehow it prompted the thought. anyway, yeah... after two months you have every right to know where he lives, be asked over for dinner, etc. why not suggest cooking for him - at his place? do some detective work...

[No_Go]

Just curious what is the best way to do a background check? Intelius etc do not give too much information.

 

Regarding OP's guy: my gut feeling days "married and scared". His decreased texting after the first night in the hotel combined with the other thread... I can't keep but think that he's genuinely interested in her but too intimidated/scared from something/someone (wife / live in gf are the first things to pop in mind, but could be, less likely, other activity)

 

OP: I forgot to ask how did you met, and how old are two of you? Are you new in the dating world? I'm trying to clarify the picture...

 

Have you checked into his back round yet? This knowledge should be very useful for your future with him.

[Satu]

He's definitely hiding something, and that which is hidden is not usually good...