Jamesey Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 So, I've been dating this guy now for 4 months. We had so much fun in the early stages, but it soon became apparent he was insecure. He has got better with the insecurity issues and paranoia (at one point he was looking through my phone every time I left the room), but it's still there, and I now feel like he's controlling me to a degree. I was between jobs for 5 months or so. I've bagged a job I love, but he's complaining that he doesn't see me now (even though we still meet each other nearly every night and message/call each other non stop) and tries to make me feel bad. I find myself often just saying what he wants to hear, but it soon turns around that I'm a liar and I've hurt him. I just say these things for a quiet life. It's getting to the point where I'm frightened of what to say, for fear of an argument, but even then we still fight every time we see each other. I was planning on getting engaged to this man soon, but it sort of feels like our thing has been so damaged, it's beyond repair. I'm really gutted tbh. Could people please give me advice on where to go from here.
casey.lives Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 It sucks that they are invading your personal privacy and treating you suspiciously. What i would keep in mind is that 4 months is not enough for trust to be harnessed in a relationship. talk and get to know each other more and slowly use practical ways of building trust 1
RocketQueen Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Hi, I would say the very fact that you're on here and from what you've said it does seem like it's time to call it a day. It's very early in the relationship to be experiencing such doubts but better now than a few years down the line, I'd say. If a person is insecure and has trust issues nothing you do can help that. Most caring humans find it hard to walk away from someone who is already suffering from these kind of issues but you need to think of yourself here. Jut because the relationship is fairly new it will still be hard to end it and he needs to know the reasons why, he's not behaving rationally. Good luck xx
Gus Grimly Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 You need to walk away. The guy is a drama queen and a jealous control freak. Nah, you don't need that. He's bad news. Red flags are all over the place here, best to be on your way out ASAP. 4 months and he's acting like this? Imagine what he'll be like when the honeymoon phase ends.
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