Jtizzle Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 maybe somebody can clear this up for me.. ive always been confused on why dudes who have things going good for them and is going somewhere in life makin things happen, get/stay with chicks who are not doing anything in life, just lazy, not ambitious,basically no good etc?? why would a man want to be doin all the hard work and havin the lady loungin and spendin his money, and not contributin to anything to make THEM better?
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Some men like the idea of being able to provide for, and take care of his wife in such a way where she doesn't have to work. I take it you aren't talking about these type of men who choose to do this?
HokeyReligions Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 You only see the surface and don't know what each partner brings to a relationship. Emotional support. Love. Compassion. Conversation. Laughter. The proverbial shoulder to lean on. A sense of strength and worth--ie: being able to take care of another is quite powerful and something many people need in their life. Some men want a trophy wife. Some men value a terrific hostess because their wife is a reflection of themselves. It might not be lazy on the surface, but perhaps it appears that way. Some men marry a "secretary" --someone who contributes by paying the bills, running errands, making sure the home is maintained and the husband is comfortable when he's home. Others may indeed marry or be in relationships with lazy women (or women with lazy men) because they love them and their priorities fit with each other. Perhaps their ambitions are just different from yours.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Is the 'lazy wife' in this post referring to the wife of the man who you happen to be involved with?
JanieQP Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Is the 'lazy wife' in this post referring to the wife of the man who you happen to be involved with? It's a good thing I wasn't drinking coffee when I read this ...
TUDOR Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Maybe her middle name is "Hoover" and knows how to keep him happy behind closed doors.
alphamale Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 if a woman is attractive it does not matter what she is like cause she WILL have men!
blind_otter Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Men like to feel like they are taking care of their lady. Even if the lady had her own house, car, and a good job - my mother taught me this and has been married 35 years. She always makes sure that my Dad has the things HE takes care of, so he feels like he takes care of her. Some men like it more than others....so they want their woman to do less, or be less educated or whatever. Personally I have always been more educated than the men I date, and I have my own house and car and job and such, but I understand the impulse. THen again other than working, I am one lazy beyotch and the guys I date still seem to like me even though you have to poke me vigorously with a stick to motivate me to do anything. HAH.
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter you have to poke me vigorously with a stick to motivate me to do anything. HAH. Whatever it takes... you and your kinky practices
blind_otter Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Whatever it takes... you and your kinky practices No man I've ever been with has complained about the vigorous stick-poking part....
Author Jtizzle Posted May 10, 2005 Author Posted May 10, 2005 yea i see how it operates now...i didnt really mean to say LAZY, it was the only decent word i could come with at the time of posting, i wanted to say sorry ass women,but thats not nice...and yes LucreziaBorgia, this is referring to the relationship i "was" involved in.. but its also something i never understood in life.. a good man workin, makin good money, has goals,etc..always says, i want a woman who is doing good for herself, has a conversation, has goals dreams and ambition..but yet they fall for the chick that is totally opposite and still stay
d'Arthez Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Don't forget that is what he was telling you (about the active part). It might be, because he thought you wanted to hear just that. I don't know if you have met his wife, but it could also be part of playing the poor man who was caught accidentaly in an affair. And it might be that he was telling the truth, but was too spineless to set his wife free through divorce.
noname Posted May 10, 2005 Posted May 10, 2005 Originally posted by Jtizzle yes LucreziaBorgia, this is referring to the relationship i "was" involved in.. sometimes they stay because they can find a woman on the side, so they have the best of both worlds... other reasons: kids wanting it to work out they don't think the woman is a sorry ass they are a nurturer stupidity self esteem sucker for punishment love...
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