KunFuZed Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 I already feel bad so please save your negative comments. I just came here to vent. I feel so stupid for trusting a stranger I met on a dating app. On our second date he talked me into having [unprotected] sex with him. #Don'tJudgeMe I knew his status prior to having sex and he pulled out so I wasn't worried about getting pregnant. I should have known from then we had no future. In 3 weeks of him initiating sex and me giving, I told him I wanted us to abstain from sex until we are in a relationship. There were times i would say no but he knew what to say to talk me into in. Finally I put my foot down and refused to give in. After a week of no sex he tells me he wanted to be in a relationship with me and the sex began again. He wanted me to take a plan B once he thought he slipped up and then requested I get on birthcontrol. Within a month the dates slowly stopped. He said it's because he's been spending more than he's saving. I started to feel like we weren't really in a relationship. He didn't want to talk to me ever day and he would always make excuses. I felt things weren't being reciprocated and tried to discuss it with him and it started an argument. He disappeared on me for 3 weeks but would call to check up. After 2 months of dating and sex and 1 month of bf/gf he finally tells me he doesn't want to be in a relationship he just wants to be friends. That made me very upset because I did so many nasty sexual things with this man. In a short period of time he convinced me that I was the one he wanted to be with and he wouldn't leave me. I believed him, giving so much of myself only to get hurt in the end. I was celibate for almost 2 years before I met him. I regret meeting this man and letting him in so quickly.
Gus Grimly Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 That's rough. Well, you gave the guy an ultimatum or you'd withhold sex from him. It's not surprising to me that he told you exactly what you wanted to hear. You have to ask yourself, was it real? "I started to feel like we weren't really in a relationship." Because you weren't really in one, or at least the kind of relationship that you desired. He got exactly what he needed from you and once the novelty wore off he disappeared. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I was taught to have self-respect. If I can't respect myself how will anyone respect me. Do you get my drift? I'm not judging you or anyone, I just hope you realize you are not an object. Having morals and standards is not a bad thing. If anyone tells you otherwise they have no integrity. This man was a wolf in sheeps clothing. There are many more out there where he came from, I assure you. I'm so sorry you went through this, but you've learned a valuable lesson. You must be careful when pursuing relationships through OLD. Especially apps like Tinder that are a haven for men looking for an easy hookup. 1
JewelD Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 I already feel bad so please save your negative comments. I just came here to vent. I feel so stupid for trusting a stranger I met on a dating app. On our second date he talked me into having [unprotected] sex with him. #Don'tJudgeMe I knew his status prior to having sex and he pulled out so I wasn't worried about getting pregnant. I should have known from then we had no future. In 3 weeks of him initiating sex and me giving, I told him I wanted us to abstain from sex until we are in a relationship. There were times i would say no but he knew what to say to talk me into in. Finally I put my foot down and refused to give in. After a week of no sex he tells me he wanted to be in a relationship with me and the sex began again. He wanted me to take a plan B once he thought he slipped up and then requested I get on birthcontrol. Within a month the dates slowly stopped. He said it's because he's been spending more than he's saving. I started to feel like we weren't really in a relationship. He didn't want to talk to me ever day and he would always make excuses. I felt things weren't being reciprocated and tried to discuss it with him and it started an argument. He disappeared on me for 3 weeks but would call to check up. After 2 months of dating and sex and 1 month of bf/gf he finally tells me he doesn't want to be in a relationship he just wants to be friends. That made me very upset because I did so many nasty sexual things with this man. In a short period of time he convinced me that I was the one he wanted to be with and he wouldn't leave me. I believed him, giving so much of myself only to get hurt in the end. I was celibate for almost 2 years before I met him. I regret meeting this man and letting him in so quickly. On a serious note, the pull-out method is bs. You're actually more likely to get pregnant that way. There is semen in pre-ejaculatory fluid, so even if a man pulls out before he finishes, you could still end up pregnant. You should also see a dr. If he convinced you to have unprotected sex, he probably does it to a lot of women and STD's are a bigger concern than pregnancy. Having sex with a guy on the second date isn't a huge deal, but ALWAYS protect yourself. You can't use sex to start or maintain a relationship. Trust me, I've been there. Men will say and do just about anything to get it, and once they get it (if that's all they want), they move on to the next one. From my understanding, a lot of people on these dating sites are just looking for sex, so it's best to be on your guard with everyone you meet. If you want to be in a relationship before you have sex with them, stick to it! If they try to pressure you into it, they don't respect you and you should walk away. Don't beat yourself up over it and don't have any regrets. You can learn and grow from this experience. Now you know better for next time.
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