HansonGirl Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 (edited) so i have decided to get over my stupid crush. well the thing is sometimes i interact with the guy. I am wondering what is appropriate in terms of how friendly to be with him. I am afraid to carry on a conversation with him because every time i do i regret it. He is very easy to talk to and i get comfortable with him. I know it's hard for me to do this, but I need to distance myself altogether - it's the right thing to do. But i'm inclined to give him one-word answers and I know he may notice the sudden change. But i feel he does not share the same feelings for me. I haven't TOLD him my feelings, but at this point i feel the best course of action is to avoid him and get over my crush. I saw a psychic and told her about my plan and she advised against it and told me that i should stay friends with him, but who believes psychics anyway, she doesn't know what she is talking about! Isn't it funny how I already feel terrible about being rude to him (I haven't even done it yet) and he has done a couple things that were rude to me, and that's part of the reason I want to do this because I want to move on for crying out loud (not to reciprocate...I mean that those things just added to my reasons for why i need to get over this crush). what is even wrong with me? He can be rude to me yet I feel horrible for even CONSIDERING being short with him and giving him one word answers. I just want to stop thinking about him! so how do i go about distancing myself, and is there a way to do it WITHOUT it being super obvious? Just avoid him at all costs? Edited August 16, 2015 by HansonGirl
xcupid Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Avoiding him is the best course of action. Under what circumstances do you interact with him and how frequent is that?
Empyrea Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 And why are you convinced it's a bad idea to express your feelings to him or at least ask him out? If he says no, it'd be easier to move on at least.. 1
DatingDirection Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 (edited) Forget it, if he's rude to you, don't give him the time of day with you. Just stay away from him. If you have to see him, just smile, a quick hello, and that's it. Don't be rude back to him, show him you're classy, and fun. In you're mind, move on. If he wants to ask you out, or be nice to you, he will. Edited August 16, 2015 by DatingDirection 2
Author HansonGirl Posted August 17, 2015 Author Posted August 17, 2015 Forget it, if he's rude to you, don't give him the time of day with you. Just stay away from him. If you have to see him, just smile, a quick hello, and that's it. Don't be rude back to him, show him you're classy, and fun. In you're mind, move on. If he wants to ask you out, or be nice to you, he will. I think i'll do that. the sad thing is I think i don't come off as "fun" to people because i am pretty reserved. But i am not going to worry about "winning" or what he thinks of me, but just moving on for my own sake and peace of mind!
Author HansonGirl Posted August 20, 2015 Author Posted August 20, 2015 I am doing this and it's really really hard. I feel like it's a stand-off, unless I'm imagining things. I used to stop by his office (yes this is a work colleague, if I haven't mentioned) and say hi, but now i don't. I noticed that this week he has been closing his door all day - not because of me but because he's trying to finish a big project and he's concentrating - two times this week, i was in my other colleague's ("Susie") office right across from his. we weren't speaking loudly, but i was in there maybe half an hour. he had arrived during that conversation and left his door open. When i left Susie's office, i didn't say hi to him or even acknowledge him and went down the hall, then about a minute later i noticed now his door was closed, and it remained closed for the rest of the day. The same exact thing happened today. I was in there for quite a while, he had his door open and then after I left he decided to close it. The reason I thought this was interesting is because he has been closing his door all week and if he really wanted to concentrate, it would make sense to do so when two people are carrying on a conversation outside your door, rather than after the conversation ends and it's quiet. considering I used to often at least go in and chat with him after meeting with Susie, I thought maybe he was expecting me to do so. So there's that, and then the fact that i also have not even gone in there or made contact with him at all. I am doing pretty good, I must say (aside from reading into things, above). but i am finding it hard because I want to talk to him! He evidentally doesn't want to talk to me that much though, so... I have a feeling he may stop by my neighboring coworker's office tomorrow and he might say hi to me, but I don't know what to say to him.
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