Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 ..but wants to reschedule. Next her? I don't believe she'd show up to the follow-up date, either.
Gaeta Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Calm down, why did she cancel? shyt happens sometimes.
oberkeat Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Sounds like classic flakiness. I can't stand when women do this. Unless she offered a specific date and time when she asked to reschedule, I would block her number and forget her. 2
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 Calm down, why did she cancel?Don't know. Don't really care. Anyone can give you more than 2 hours' notice. 1
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 Anyone else vote to give her the benefit of the doubt?
oberkeat Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Two hours before is right when you're getting ready for the date. By waiting until then to cancel (which is what flakey women usually do), she's sub-communicating to you that she doesn't give a s*** about your time. I wouldn't talk to her again if I were you, OP.
Gaeta Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Don't know. Don't really care. Anyone can give you more than 2 hours' notice. When did she reschedule?
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 Two hours before is right when you're getting ready for the date. By waiting until then to cancel (which is what flakey women usually do), she's sub-communicating to you that she doesn't give a s*** about your time. I wouldn't talk to her again if I were you, OP.Thanks! I was going to respond, but I don't think there's any point.
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 When did she reschedule?"How does your schedule look during the week?" is how she phrased it. No excuse given for cancelling.
Poppyolive Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) "How does your schedule look during the week?" is how she phrased it. No excuse given for cancelling. Yes, that's ****ty. She don't value your time. So, value your own time and not waste any more on her. . At least if she had an excuse and a proper way to explain why she can't make it. It could of been salvageable. Edited August 15, 2015 by Poppyolive
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 Thanks guys. I just went through a breakup, and was looking forward to dating to kind of take my mind off of it -- but I'm not going to put up with a bunch of flakiness, either. At this point I'm thinking that dating may not be the best plan for me. Rejection after rejection: not very good for the ol' self-esteem. 1
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 If you just went through a breakup, you should be enjoying your freedom. Fill the void with having fun and getting busy with life. 1
Gaeta Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 "How does your schedule look during the week?" is how she phrased it. No excuse given for cancelling. Ok that's very weak. Go to next. 1
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 If you just went through a breakup, you should be enjoying your freedom. Fill the void with having fun and getting busy with life.Agreed. Part of that supposed freedom, though, was going to be meeting other women. Oh well. There's a singles mixer in town tonight that I might go to.
oberkeat Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) Thanks guys. I just went through a breakup, and was looking forward to dating to kind of take my mind off of it -- but I'm not going to put up with a bunch of flakiness, either. At this point I'm thinking that dating may not be the best plan for me. Rejection after rejection: not very good for the ol' self-esteem. If you're wondering why men get rejected so much, it's because in our culture men are the ones who do the approaching and pursuing 99.9% of the time. If women actually approached men, we'd probably see a lot more threads where women complain about getting flaked on and rejected. For men, rejection is an unavoidable part of the process because society expects us to pursue. Edited August 15, 2015 by oberkeat
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 If you're wondering why men get rejected so much, it's because in our culture men are the ones who do the approaching and pursuing 99.9% of the time. If women actually approached men, we'd probably see more threads where women complain about getting flaked on and rejected. If you're a guy, rejection is part of the process.Good points. And I agree with you. All I'm saying is that getting rejected at this particular point in time -- after having been dumped -- is not a good plan for my already fragile psyche. I've been messaging a lot of girls on OKCupid and getting barely any responses, even though I know my profile is solid and that I'm attractive, etc. But I just feel like I'm trying too hard and "fighting against life", if that makes any sense. I think it would be a good idea to just 100% forget about women and dating for at least the next few months. 2
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Filling the void by meeting women when you are not emotionally ready is just setting you up for failure. It can make you a little crazy and negative. I have always found that you don't find them you let them find you.
guest569 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 If she gave a reason i would try again but with no explanation that is just irritating. 1
Popsicle Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Definitely a crappy thing for her to do. I wouldn't bother with her anymore and please try to keep your head up. 2
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 She just messaged me on OKC to make sure I got the text. You guys aren't gonna like it, but I just texted her that I would be willing to r/s, but if she's not interested, I'd prefer to know that. I know, I know -- I'm being too nice. Then again, I'm being up front. Whatever. Nothing to lose on this one, really.
oberkeat Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Filling the void by meeting women when you are not emotionally ready is just setting you up for failure. It can make you a little crazy and negative. I have always found that you don't find them you let them find you. Interesting.
Popsicle Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Filling the void by meeting women when you are not emotionally ready is just setting you up for failure. It can make you a little crazy and negative. I have always found that you don't find them you let them find you. I always thought you were a woman. 1
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 And she sends me a text explaining the situation, apologizing and saying she's interested. I guess I'll give her another shot 2
Popsicle Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 And she sends me a text explaining the situation, apologizing and saying she's interested. I guess I'll give her another shot What was the situation?
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