nickprior Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 say you message someone on a dating site and they message back and you start talking. do you start messaging them everyday until you get their number or met them or do you maybe go a day or 2 without sending a message so you dont look to suffocating?
xcupid Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Do you mean messaging by email rather than texting? I'd do emails every day or in response to her emails. Pace it appropriately. But not a ton of emails every day. If you have something interesting or funny to say it won't look suffocating. It keeps you on her mind and she'll get to know you and feel comfortable with you. No one liners like "how are you?" That's boring and she'll grow tired of it.
fitnessfan365 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 I usually give it two emails a piece on day one. If she makes me curious, I ask for her number. Then I get her on the phone that day and set up the meet for within 48 hours if possible. That way I don't get wrapped up in emailing/texting building expectations. 1
Author nickprior Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 I usually give it two emails a piece on day one. If she makes me curious, I ask for her number. Then I get her on the phone that day and set up the meet for within 48 hours if possible. That way I don't get wrapped up in emailing/texting building expectations. but what if she snot comfortable giving out her number right away
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 If a guy was messaging me several times a day for days without asking me for a date, I wouldn't be wasting my time on them because they lack confidence.
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 but what if she snot comfortable giving out her number right away You move on and keep your options open. Girls use that excuse because they are waiting for a better option. 1
Gary S Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 I would respond to email within 24 hours. If someone can't respond within 24, chances are they are not interested or unavailable. If she's not comfortable giving out her number, you can write to her a little longer.....they should not give their number out unless they are comfortable..... but I would not write to one gal for more than a week. Also, you should talk to more than one at a time if you can, circular date.
oberkeat Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) When I was dating online, I'd do six fairly substantive messages (3 from me, 3 from her) then ask for the number. I wasn't interested in being pen pals. Of course, that was before I realized most women online aren't worth dating. I don't think men should bother with online dating. Edited August 15, 2015 by oberkeat
Author nickprior Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 what if say you live 30 miles away but you agree to a dat ethe next week. do you continue talking for that week?
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 what if say you live 30 miles away but you agree to a dat ethe next week. do you continue talking for that week? If you lived 30 miles away I wouldn't date you. seriously do you want to date someone that far away from you?
Jj66 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 but what if she snot comfortable giving out her number right away Just like in the real world, if she likes you and thinks you're not a creep she will give you her number. Make her laugh. When she starts using winks and smilies in her messages, tell her you'd like to meet and get her number. Strike while the iron is hot. If you don't, some other bloke online will. It's actually quite simple.
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