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1st Date with a Schizophrenic

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katiegrl Established Member

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I find OP story very disturbing. If this is how she handles online dating than she is asking to be on the 6 o'clock news very soon.

 

A man telling me he has schizophrenia would scare the shyt out of me but there she goes traveling 3 hours to spend the night with him. A complete stranger. A complete stranger with a severe mental illness.

 

^^This I wholeheartedly agree with!

 

And as you know I am not a *professional,* but I do have a nursing degree, and as such have studied the illness, have worked with those suffering from it and having a nephew who suffers from it. So offering my opinion based on that.

 

Are there varying degrees of severity? Of course. And I am happy that your grandmother lived a full and complete life.

 

Which, sort of contradicts your argument that the OP should stay away... after all, if your own grandma lived a full and complete life.... no reason to think this man couldn't either. Just sain.

 

I dunno, I just find this guy's behavior a bit shady (and disingenuous) tis all. Telling her he has Schizophrenia, inviting her over, having sex? And then the next day telling her it's going to be an *uphill battle* after which his entire attitude changed ...and he's distancing himself?

 

How many times have we heard this same story? The Schizophrenia is a new one, but other than that, it's the same ole same ole.

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Gaeta Established Member

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The question is not if schizophrenia is manageable or not. We don't want OP to think there was nothing wrong with traveling 3 hours to meet a stranger with a severe mental illness!!

 

Bottom line OP does not know how severe his schizophrenia is, she does not know if he diligently takes his medicine, she doesn't know what persona he takes on when he stops his medicine.

 

What she did was highly irresponsible and dangerous.

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katiegrl Established Member

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And Gaeta, I love you girl, but you have said yourself you don't believe much, if anything, of what a man tells you on those first few dates.

 

Remember the guy who told you this elaborate story that he suffered from depression? Checked himself into a clinic...etc.

 

Turned out he was lying and he was actually married?

 

Again, just sain. :) :)

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Gaeta Established Member

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And Gaeta, I love you girl, but you have said yourself you don't believe much, if anything, of what a man tells you on those first few dates.

 

Remember the guy who told you this elaborate story that he suffered from depression? Checked himself into a clinic...etc.

 

Turned out he was lying and he was actually married?

 

Again, just sain. :) :)

 

Good point !!

 

If this man's game is to play the schizophrenic card to attract women, wow!! Just wow! but it's totally possible. Nothing surprises me anymore.

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katiegrl Established Member

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Good point !!

 

If this man's game is to play the schizophrenic card to attract women, wow!! Just wow! but it's totally possible. Nothing surprises me anymore.

 

Maybe not so much to attract women (even though it might be as women generally like to "help" and take care of people).. ..but also to have a ready-made excuse to dump them afterwards, after he gets what he's after (sex).

 

Which appears to be what this man is doing, hence his "uphill battle" comment and his attitude shift immediately after she spends the night....had sex.

 

But who knows really.

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sandylee1 Established Member

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Regardless of his mental illness , he's not showing signs that he's interested after all the online talk, so forget him and move on. It's only been 4 days and I have to ask why you'd sign up for more of this.

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I stayed at his place because he lives quite far and train were not running after our date, so I had no where else to go. He showed me his pills and I saw him take them while I was there.

 

I haven't dated anyone for over a year so I get too attached too easily. I have read up quite a bit about schizophrenia, he seems somewhat normal and able to manage his life from what I saw, the only thing he can't seem to do is keep his place clean.

 

If he doesn't contact me within a week I am just going to assume he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. I deleted him from Twitter so I don't have to see him posting and ignoring me.

 

Thanks for the advice everyone, I will continue my search and not get attached too quickly to the next guy.

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Gaeta Established Member

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I stayed at his place because he lives quite far and train were not running after our date, so I had no where else to go. He showed me his pills and I saw him take them while I was there.

 

I haven't dated anyone for over a year so I get too attached too easily. I have read up quite a bit about schizophrenia, he seems somewhat normal and able to manage his life from what I saw, the only thing he can't seem to do is keep his place clean.

 

If he doesn't contact me within a week I am just going to assume he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. I deleted him from Twitter so I don't have to see him posting and ignoring me.

 

Thanks for the advice everyone, I will continue my search and not get attached too quickly to the next guy.

 

** You do NOT travel 3 hours to meet a man you don't know.

 

**You let the man drive to you or you drive half way and you meet in a PUBLIC place.

 

** If you cannot come back after meeting him for a coffee then you DON'T go meet him.

 

** You don't stay at people place and don't get in their car if you don't know them for a while.

 

Do you understand what you did is dangerous?? You staying there because you could not come back is NOT an excuse. BAD things could have happened to you.

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Gary S Established Member

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If he is crazy, maybe he would be better off with a counselor than a girlfriend?

 

Just because they are beautiful and breathing does not mean they are good relationship material.

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smackie9 Established Member

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I will continue my search and not get attached too quickly to the next guy.

 

Yes please do. Just because a guy gives you attention doesn't mean he is right for you. Be firm with YOUR expectations, have set "standards" and never settle for less. All the effort and waiting for the right one WILL pay off.

 

Stay away from this guy, he is not worth it.

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smackie9 Established Member

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he seems somewhat normal and able to manage his life from what I saw, the only thing he can't seem to do is keep his place clean.

 

 

I have worked in the property restoration industry for 25 years. We know that the majority of people who live in mess/filth have some kind of mental illness or addiction.

Arieswoman Established Member

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OP,

Please learn to date smart ;

 

** You do NOT travel 3 hours to meet a man you don't know.

 

**You let the man drive to you or you drive half way and you meet in a PUBLIC place.

 

** If you cannot come back after meeting him for a coffee then you DON'T go meet him.

 

** You don't stay at people place and don't get in their car if you don't know them for a while.

 

Do you understand what you did is dangerous?? You staying there because you could not come back is NOT an excuse. BAD things could have happened to you.

 

This x 100000

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