alwayswannanap Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Hey guys, I dated this guy for 6 months before I broke up with him a month and half ago. Things just weren't working. We fought a lot and he lied to me about his exgirlfriend. To me the logical thing to do was just to cut my losses and end the relationship. But it hurts so so much and I'm realizing that I still miss him. Can someone share with me your perspective on this situation? It's really confusing me and I'd really appreciate your input.
HelloImAmy Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Just a few questions. What did he do after the break up? Go no contact or try to win you back ?
Gus Grimly Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Things just weren't working. We fought a lot and he lied to me about his exgirlfriend. Do you miss the fights and lies he was feeding you as well? 2
aloneinaz Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 I broke up with him a month and half ago. Things just weren't working. We fought a lot and he lied to me about his exgirlfriend. To me the logical thing to do was just to cut my losses and end the relationship. But it hurts so so much and I'm realizing that I still miss him. Can someone share with me your perspective on this situation? It's really confusing me and I'd really appreciate your input. Hi there, I don't think you miss this guy at all. I think what you miss is being in a relationship. The texting, emailing, calls, companionship, sex, etc.. That's natural and you're breaking a habit right now by staying in NC. Going back to a bad R/S because you're lonely is a terrible idea. Simply read all the threads here to see how spectacularly un-successful people are when doing that. You dumped him for a reason and I'm sure it wasn't a knee jerk one. That R/S was only 6 months and should have still been in the honeymoon phase. For it to already suffered a break up so early, speaks volumes about non-compatibility. 4
Thegreatfrazzle Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Do you miss the fights and lies he was feeding you as well? Exactly, whenever I think I miss my ex, I just think to myself... do I miss being unappreciated and treated like $hit? 1
casey.lives Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 I think you did the right thing. 6 months is a good time to stop something upon examination. It looks like you were heading down a grim path with him.
Learningtowalkagain Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Hi there, I don't think you miss this guy at all. I think what you miss is being in a relationship. The texting, emailing, calls, companionship, sex, etc.. That's natural and you're breaking a habit right now by staying in NC. Going back to a bad R/S because you're lonely is a terrible idea. Simply read all the threads here to see how spectacularly un-successful people are when doing that. You dumped him for a reason and I'm sure it wasn't a knee jerk one. That R/S was only 6 months and should have still been in the honeymoon phase. For it to already suffered a break up so early, speaks volumes about non-compatibility. Listen to this ^^^^ I would have typed the same thing. If you talk to your friends about why the two of you broke up (or we could just read your original post), you'll slowly realize you don't miss the person just the relationship. You miss having someone. That's all I miss. My ex was a BPD nightmare. From time to time I miss her companionship, sex, and having someone, but when it gets down to the nuts and bolts I don't miss the roller coaster ride, fights, anxiety, and the feeling like she was a second job. 6 months is nothing. Work on yourself, find someone you don't fight with and makes you happy. 1
aloneinaz Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Listen to this ^^^^ I would have typed the same thing. If you talk to your friends about why the two of you broke up (or we could just read your original post), you'll slowly realize you don't miss the person just the relationship. You miss having someone. That's all I miss. My ex was a BPD nightmare. From time to time I miss her companionship, sex, and having someone, but when it gets down to the nuts and bolts I don't miss the roller coaster ride, fights, anxiety, and the feeling like she was a second job. 6 months is nothing. Work on yourself, find someone you don't fight with and makes you happy. I bet EVERYONE (including me) has gone back to toxic/dysfunctional relationships due to being lonely, having a bad time dating and then seeing a reconciliation as a quick fix. My personal experiences and most of the ones I've seen here, demonstrate it is the absolute worst thing to do. We're SSOO much better off to ride out the pain, loneliness and time alone. Being patient and waiting to meet someone new, that we're more compatible with is the right thing to do. 1
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