purpletulip Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 I went out with a guy 15+ years ago that totally broke my heart. I handled the actual end of the relationship well because I knew we weren't compatible enough to stay together. But what broke my heart was that he decided to ignore me afterwards, and that was rough. You lived in the same small town and had many of the same friends, so for a few years he pretty much acted like he didn't know me. After a couple years, we both moved away. I am now happily married. I'll be honest, once every 3-4 years when I'm really bored I'll google his name just to see what's up. This guy has done a good job dropping off the face of the earth because I never saw anything interesting. Once I asked a mutual friend what had happened to him, and the friend didn't know anything. I remember the friend saying, 'he would never be on something like Facebook or Instagram - he's not that type'. A month ago, I sent the ex an email. After so many years I figured what the hell. It was one of those 'hope your well, I'm glad we met because I learned a lot from that relationship, thanks...' I didn't want a response...and I didn't get one. Anyway, this week I'm on Facebook and I see my ex in the 'people you may know section'. I was really surprised that he was on fb after so many years MIA. I didn't click on his page, but I saw that we have 4 mutual friends. I was surprised to see they were all friends that were VERY close to me but not close to him at all. I almost wondered if he was friending people I was close to as a way to say 'yeah I'm around and doing great - don't contact me again'. I'm actually really annoyed he would friend what I consider to be MY friends. I have no intention of contacting him again. Is it too petty to add him to my block list so he can't see what I post or comment on our mutual friends' wall? I'm probably reading into this too much, but I wish he would just have said 'leave me the **** alone' when I emailed him vs. popping up on fb and friending my good friends.
SummerSkies Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 It sounds to me like your ego is a bit bruised that he didn't reply. He may have his own reasons. Maybe he has a "don't talk to exes" policy? Some people do, especially if they are in a relationship. If you click the x over the friend suggestion to make it go away, you shouldn't see it again. If he is adding your friends to get at you, then that's really pathetic on his part, but I doubt that's what he's doing. I wouldn't bother putting him on the block list because that's validating in your mind that this is worth your time and thought, and it really isn't.
mightycpa Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Every 3 or 4 years, he gets an email from a site like MyLife Alerts, and it will say something like: ExBF, Someone NEW is searching for you! Find out if they are a potential employer, client, old friend or a date. Click here!and he follows the link, and there you are. I imagine he feels like you'll never let go. As to your friends, well, Facebook friends aren't real friends. They're more like "I know your name." Let it go. Block him if it really bothers you.
Author purpletulip Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 summer skies - thanks for the great advice. I think you're right...my ego is a bit bruised. I did click on the x so I won't see his face again. cpa - I will let it go - thanks! 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 cpa - I will let it go - thanks! Good for you. Also, you should forget about him since .... I am now happily married.
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