1q3455402828193 Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 I know I post about relationships very often. Probably due to me only being 21 and very inexperienced. But, posting my issues/experiences on here have really helped me out! Thanks thus far, guys and ladies! So, I have known this guy for 5 years now. Since the first day I met him, sparks were in the air. There was such an intense attraction to one an other that I had to catch myself from staring too hard or being so mesmerized when we talked. Over the years, he has been supportive of me going to college, always being a message away to check up on me, and always giving me advice and encouraging words along the way. This is my final year in college, and he knows that as well. It always felt like he was waiting for me to finish college before he made an advance on me. He told me last year that he wants me to focus on finishing school. As a result, for the past 3 years, our relationship has been filled with periodic communication while I am away to school and subtle flirting when I am home. Basically, lukewarm signals. Last week, I spoke to my mom about what I felt. She also believes that he likes me (He has asked my mom about me while I've been away at school). She believes that the thing that is preventing our relationship from blossoming is my dad's strong dislike for him. Today, I had a conversation with him, just having a heart-to-heart about some family issues I am dealing with. Not only did he respond with great advice, but he also told me not to hesitate to message him as often as I would like if I need advice or just have a heart-to-heart. He is always looking out for me. I really like him. And this connection is definitely not going away. The older i get, the more I want to pursue it. He knows that my dad doesnt like him...and he doesnt really care for my dad, either. What should I do in this situation? My parents' blessing is important to me, but I would hate to give up on a chance at happiness and love just because of an ego battle between him and my dad (regarding to biblical topics). Is his attraction to me evident enough to even pursue?
cessna Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Would I be right in assuming this guy is quite a bit older than you and this is why your dad doesn't like him? The way you describe him, he almost sounds like he's your teacher or father.
Author 1q3455402828193 Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 He is older. But isnt my teacher or father. lol. My mom knows how old he is and seems a bit more understanding of the age gap (she, too, is 8 years younger than her husband)...so much so that she will give advice. My dad doesnt know I like him. My dad doesnt like him due to falling outs that they have had over biblical things (both like to engage in deep bible discussions).
bubbaganoosh Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 My dad doesnt know I like him. My dad doesnt like him due to falling outs that they have had over biblical things (both like to engage in deep bible discussions). Hoo boy. One thing you never do is discuss politics and especially religion. Religion is a very personal touchy subject and should be left alone unless it can be discussed by rational people. I always say that when the end comes were all going to be in for a real big surprise.
xcupid Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 You're in a no-win situation. Ultimately you may have to choose between having your dad's blessing or having this guy as your boyfriend. But it sounds like there will always be friction and it will be uncomfortable for you and your boyfriend - if he becomes that. Your mother is the possible go-between in this situation. Seek her advice. She sees both sides of the situation from the sounds of it.
d0nnivain Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Talk to your mom. Your dad may simply dislike any man who likes his daughter because in your dad's mind no man will ever be good enough for his little girl. The guy may simply be reacting to your dad's negative attitude. 1
Qboro90 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 It would help knowing the guys age exactly and the details or at least some explanation into why him and your dad don't get along. I get that it's a biblical disagreement but can you elaborate? How do they know each other? What exactly transpired between them?
Author 1q3455402828193 Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 My dad is an elder at church. The guy is a pastor. They both feel like they know the bible and our religious doctrine very well. Sometimes, my dad will identify errors in his preaching and discuss it with other people. Yeah, pretty messy. Eventually, it got back to the pastor. Ever since then, there has been tension.
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