ydidthishappen Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 (edited) This is the first time ever for me to post a thread on any kind of forum. So please don't tear me to pieces! And excuse any errors, english is not my native language. So, 3 to 4 months ago a friend had a birthday party and a whole lot of people came. Another friend organized a ride for me to get back home. The person who was supposed to give me the ride was/is a good friend of his and the brother of a guy I know. It was already pretty late when he arrived and because it was a party I already was kinda tipsy. Alcohol you know. And I talked with him and acted friendly and this was when he started looking for reasons to touch me, as in hugging me or making me lean to him. I'm a noob when it comes to guys. Never kissed anyone or had any kind of romantic or sexual relationships. So he was really up to something as his touching indicated. I really liked the kind of special attention he gave me. Besides the touchy stuff, he tried to lure me out to 'smoke' or just any reason to be alone and by ourselves. One time we went to the car to look for his mobile phone. So as we were sitting all alone in the car he suddenly asked for my number and I told him. He asked 'You don't have a boyfriend, do you?' And I answered 'No', and then he responded with 'Good.' I got sooo scared!! Never had a guy shown interest, but I already told myself the second he said it 'He probably just wants to lure you into making out with him by saying those things' or other stuff. We left the car after an unsuccessful search for his mobile phone and this is where he suddenly called my name and grabbed my face. He looked me deep into the eyes and slowly came closer. I got so panicked that I literally said 'UUHHHmmm.. I need to go' and ran inside the house like a little b*tch. He acted all right afterwards and still attempted his moves to make out. Of course he never called nor wrote a sms or something. And besides that after we saw each other again he kinda... acted cold and uninterested. Now I'm so confused because I got interested in him. I think almost every day about him and I clearly don't know what to do. Could it be he acts cold etc. because I rejected him or was it his plan all along to dump me once I made out with him? Because I get the feeling he is kind of a man-wh*re.. (stories, and some of the people he hangs out with are kind of man-wh*res aswell) HELP seriously confused! Edited August 14, 2015 by ydidthishappen
usernametaken Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 How old are you? You're getting drunk, but you've never been kissed? He's probably put off because he tried to kiss you and you rejected him. Whether he's a man-wh*re is a different question.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Well, you ran away when he tried to kiss you. That's a pretty strong sign of disinterest, which is probably how he interpreted it given that he doesn't know you've never been kissed before. I doubt he's hurt. He's just not interested after being rejected. When you gave your number, did he write it down somewhere? If not, I don't think he had any serious intention of calling, unfortunately. I'm not sure how he planned to remember it if he didn't record it somewhere. You could be correct about his man-wh*ring ways. If I may ask, how old are all of you?
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 The next time you see him apologize for running away & explain that he scared you by moving too fast. Tell him you weren't rejecting him but that he needs to slow down. See what he does with that info.
Sweet Workaholic Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 You're obsessing about him because it was your first kiss/ flirting, you're afraid you handled it wrong, it feels like a huge deal. It's not really about him. You handled it fine. Next time you'll do better still.
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