katiegrl Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) Yes, f*cking. The question was about the benefits of being single, right? Not the benefit or constraints of being coupled. A single person, by definition, has no partner thus it would be logically impossible to ok that or anything else with your non-existing partner. A single person can have **** buddies. You don't have to give them power over you by elevating their status to girlfriend/boyfriend unless you want to. Okay. The way I interpreted your comment, it sounded like you enjoyed being single because it meant you wouldn't have to get the okay from your partner your desire to f*ck some else. Suggesting that in your relationships, you *would* have to get the okay from your partner before f*cking someone else. Which would be one strange relationship! Or just an open relationship I guess. My bad..... Edited August 15, 2015 by katiegrl
jen1447 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Okay. The way I interpreted your comment, it sounded like you enjoyed being single because it meant you wouldn't have to get the okay from your partner your desire to f*ck some else. Suggesting that in your relationships, you *would* have to get the okay from your partner before f*cking someone else. Which would be one strange relationship! Or just an open relationship I guess. My bad..... Not all that strange ....maybe unconventional.
BluEyeL Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Doing whatever you want when you want it. Much less work and more free time . However, it gets old after a while. I much prefer being in a good relationship. Of course a bad one shouldn't be kept.
LookAtThisPOst Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 FYI, aside from slutting it up, you can still have all those things in a relationship. Agreed, some people are under the impression that they have to stop doing their favorite things JUST because you have a sig. other. Whatever was listed, I've known dudes to do the same activities they did when they were still and STILL do now that they are married. The ones that are in miserable marriages going down hill is where that list only becomes representative. 2
cookiemonster26 Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 I like being single. I like being able to go where I want, do what I want, buy what I want, invest how I want, work the hours I want, and even **** whomever I want without having to ok it with a partner. The only thing I miss as a single person is the nagging ;-) Being able to do whatever the **** you want, not having to answer to anyone, not having to worry about someone thinking you're not good enough it is all about you and self love for yourself, doing whatever you want at home, being able to flirt with lots of people and exploring what else is out there, advancing your career and traveling whereever the hell you want without checking with someone first, its more relaxing you dont ever have to worry about if the person i gonna text or not or if they are cheating, you have more time to work on yoursrlf and become a better person, no one there to make you cry all the time and make you feel like you are their last priority. This list makes me wonder why I still even date 1
katiegrl Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Not all that strange ....maybe unconventional. I meant strange to me..... But I hear ya and added that. Except I used the word "open." Unconventional, open, whatever works!
Maleficent Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Gee thanks. LOL YES! Okay I feel better now You're saying this assuming I am not already involved in activities or doing other things to better myself. You're also drawing a huge conclusion about my attitude towards relationships. I used the little information you gave us to give what I thought was useful advice. Next time I'll just pass.
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 15, 2015 Author Posted August 15, 2015 And this is something to be proud of? On it's face, this sounds quite unbalanced and dysfunctional IMO. But to each his own...... That's an unfair accusation. Every couple works differently. There is nothing wrong with traditional gender roles, just as there is nothing wrong with more "new-age" approaches to relationship. All is fair game if it works for both parties.
Popsicle Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 You can exercise all those weird, embarrassing little personal habits you have (like picking on your face, reading goofy websites like this one, eating in bed, watching TLC, whatever your brand of personal psychosis) without exercising any restraint. LOL so true.
Oregon_Dude Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 Being able to do whatever the **** you want, not having to answer to anyone, not having to worry about someone thinking you're not good enough it is all about you and self love for yourself, doing whatever you want at home, being able to flirt with lots of people and exploring what else is out there, advancing your career and traveling whereever the hell you want without checking with someone first, its more relaxing you dont ever have to worry about if the person i gonna text or not or if they are cheating, you have more time to work on yoursrlf and become a better person, no one there to make you cry all the time and make you feel like you are their last priority. This list makes me wonder why I still even dateWhile a tad cynical, this list is awesome. Basically, total autonomy and being worry-free about another human's internal emotional comings and goings.
katiegrl Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) That's an unfair accusation. Every couple works differently. There is nothing wrong with traditional gender roles, just as there is nothing wrong with more "new-age" approaches to relationship. All is fair game if it works for both parties. I realize that, which is why I said "to each his own.". I also said, "on its face" which means without more info. And imo, without more info, it does sound quite unbalanced, traditional gender roles or not. She's not his wife for heaven's sake. You should check out the thread in the cheating section entitled "I feel like such a dumb ass." Guy was doing same exact thing with his girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend).. Financially carrying the entire load while girlfriend was out of work. Supporting her, paying her bills, rent, even bought her a damn car. While she remained out of work, breezing along...doing jack shyt. Personally I think that is wrong and not too smart, but whatevs. Turns out she was cheating on him with at least 20 different men! All the while allowing him to support her, pay her rent, all her bills, her car payment, he gave her spending money! But again, like I said, to each his own....whatever works! Edited August 15, 2015 by katiegrl
WomenWubber Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 One thing less I have to think or worry about. 2
katiegrl Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 (edited) That's an unfair accusation. Every couple works differently. There is nothing wrong with traditional gender roles, just as there is nothing wrong with more "new-age" approaches to relationship. All is fair game if it works for both parties. In addition to previous post, traditional gender roles would dictate his girlfriend take care of the domestic duties, while he takes care of the finances. But yet, he said HE does all the domestic stuff too! You think that sounds balanced and fair? That he carries both the domestic and financial load? While she remains out of work, and does what, watch soaps? Lol Really???! I stick with what I originally said, and I would hope deadelvis re-thinks his situation, as I would not want to see all his "niceness* exploited and taken advantage of. Edited August 15, 2015 by katiegrl 1
cookiemonster26 Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 While a tad cynical, this list is awesome. Basically, total autonomy and being worry-free about another human's internal emotional comings and goings. Lol didnt mean it to sound cynical, just been in some bad relationships hahaha
TouchedByViolet Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 The benefits of singlehood are best exemplified by those in terrible relationships and/or marriages. On this forum I occasionally browse the infidelity sections and I feel better about myself. 1
Dolfin80 Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Being single allows you to love yourself 100%, you spoil yourself rotten. You are less stressed out as you only have yourself to take care of and you get to travel the world. You get to make every decision yourself, you are number one. Enjoy being single, it's wonderful. 7
joseb Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Op, what is it about being single that you dont like? Ive been in three serious ltrs and although id say they were all pretty good, at least for the earlier parts, i am far happier being single than i ever was in a relationship. Unless i meet someone truly extraordinary, i dont see myself having another ltr, or certainly not living with someone again. For me, live seems far richer and full of possibilities as a single person. 3
Dolfin80 Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 (edited) Yes I'd like to know that as well. Cause I too flourish being single. I've also had ltr and feel happier being independent. I am much stronger emotionally and feel more empowered being single, I achieve and get to experience so much more life being single. I'm not looking to change this anytime soon because I love my freedom to do as I please, I'm out enjoying the world, it's very enriching. Embrace single dome, live life. Edited August 16, 2015 by Dolfin80 1
regine_phalange Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 - No drama. At all! - No psychic skills required to read the other person's mind and actions. - You can start new activities without having to hear complains. - Your house is easily kept sparkling clean. - You can sleep in silence. You can leave a small light on without bothering anyone. You can hug your pillow without anyone getting offended - You can actually be a modern monk if you choose to. You have a small possibility of reaching enlightenment. When you are with someone else this possibility reaches zero. - You can be an absent-minded writer, artist, or whatever. - You become stronger through your loneliness. You have much-needed tranquillity for self-development and self-evaluation. You are forced to be alone with yourself, so get to know yourself better. It hurts but then it feels good to know who you are. 1
SammySammy Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Peace. Not having to compromise. Not having to lower my standards to appease somebody else. Freedom to come and go as I please. Peace. 2
salparadise Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Don't have to pay 3X for organicLeave the seat up all the timePut whatever toppings you like on your pizzaWatch lame-ass movies on netflix Sh*t stays exactly where you put itPotatoes can count as vegetablesStretch out on the couch as much as you wantMorning wood is not an issueOne French press of coffee is plentySpiders are not an emergencyA bit of mold on the cheese doesn't make it inedible 2
hotpotato Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 Op, what is it about being single that you dont like? Ive been in three serious ltrs and although id say they were all pretty good, at least for the earlier parts, i am far happier being single than i ever was in a relationship. Unless i meet someone truly extraordinary, i dont see myself having another ltr, or certainly not living with someone again. For me, live seems far richer and full of possibilities as a single person. Maybe this is why lsers are single so often. :lol:
joseb Posted August 16, 2015 Posted August 16, 2015 And this is something to be proud of? On it's face, this sounds quite unbalanced and dysfunctional IMO. But to each his own...... Yes thats exactly what i was thinking. Dd, what exactly is she bringing to the relationship? Is this the same girl you mentioned elsewhere thay cheated 7 times on her ex?
Author Hopeful30 Posted August 16, 2015 Author Posted August 16, 2015 Being single allows you to love yourself 100%, you spoil yourself rotten. You are less stressed out as you only have yourself to take care of and you get to travel the world. You get to make every decision yourself, you are number one. Enjoy being single, it's wonderful. I love myself 100% regardless and this is true, I am always number one. Now let's figure out what to do with myself lol Op, what is it about being single that you dont like? Ive been in three serious ltrs and although id say they were all pretty good, at least for the earlier parts, i am far happier being single than i ever was in a relationship. Unless i meet someone truly extraordinary, i dont see myself having another ltr, or certainly not living with someone again. For me, live seems far richer and full of possibilities as a single person. That's for you though. For me Life is richer with a partner. You get to have wonderful conversations, share intimate moments, experience things together for the first time together. Being single means all of the awesomest experiences I've done alone and have no one to reminisce about it with. Heck I've probably forgotten half of the awesome things I've done because I've done them alone so i couldn't enjoy them fully (while everyone else is at the movie theater with a partner asking.."Why is she alone? Was she stood up? Poor thing has no date..." As well, being single means you do less. I don't go for romantic dinners on my own. Did that for new year's last year. Not one single person had the courtesy to even wish me a new year or tell me "good for you for celebrating alone anyways." Nope. Just pity eyes. And it did suck spending it all by myself. Plus theres the no sex issue. Tell me all you want, I don't do casual sex. Does nothing for me. I don't know where you've been let alone who you are, you're not going to get inside of me. Yes I'd like to know that as well. Cause I too flourish being single. I've also had ltr and feel happier being independent. I am much stronger emotionally and feel more empowered being single, I achieve and get to experience so much more life being single. I'm not looking to change this anytime soon because I love my freedom to do as I please, I'm out enjoying the world, it's very enriching. Embrace single dome, live life. See again, that's yourself. I feel more empowered having a partner, because we can both take on the world and I feel stronger and happier knowing I won't have to face the world alone again. People keep listing things that are awesome when you're single, but I'm like this all the time anyways. I will watch lame movies even if I have a man. Because my kind of man would watch lame movies with me. I still do what I want. In fact, when I do what I want, having a partner means there is someone to do it with me! Yay! I dunno. Being single is boring in my personal opinion. The only true upside is your stuff is always where you left it.
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