Sacro Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Let me tell you first that what you do really helps a lot. Let me start with my story. I've known this girl for almost five years and been in love with her almost the exact same time. We used to talk very rarely, but I decided to take the hint about two years ago. Time later I decided that I was ready to tell her that I liked her, and I wanted to try a relationship. So I ask her if she wanted the same, she just rejected in the worst posible way. So I didn't wanted to see her for several months. When we started talking again, she started telling me that she made a mistake and that I should have waited her to discovers she loves me. While I have no contact with her she was dating a guy. In fact she started a relationship with him about 1 and a half weeks after I stop talking to her. When we started talking again in mars, she told me that I should forgive her and I did. I was still deeply in love with her and I wanted to try it out. The first two months everything was perfect she was telling she wanted me and she just made a mistake about leaving me. At first I didn't believe in her but after a while I believed what she said. I started telling her how in love I was about her. I even went to her house to help her with a normal problem. At may of this year she started telling me that she doesn't wanted me anymore, and she started telling me that she wanted to leave me but she didn't wanted everything to end in that way. She tells me that she wants this to end. That she knows I had hope in this but it was ment to end. That she was suffering being with me and more. I try to tell her that I loved her, that I would change anything just for her, that I wanted to make her happy by anyway posible. But she kept telling me that the fact that I loved her wasn't going to make her love me. Other day she tells me that she wasn't going to compete for me, and I didn't loved her. I was so desperate that I told her in front of all the people I know that I love her. She didn't even blinked. I decided that I was going to show her constantly that I love her and I did, but she immediately stop talking to me, I went to her house to see what was happening and she refused to see me or even talk to me. She even started talking about me behind my back. She started saying she was happy being free from myself and that she didn't wanted to see me again, and that this was never going to happen. So i got mad and fight with her about it, but she didn't said a word. This happend til yesterday that I said to her that this was the end. It was the second time she hurt me and I let her do it. I am not a guy who can start a relationship in less than a week, but I cared about her. I don't know what to do now, I love her but I don't know why she is doing this. I'm sorry for my typing, I'm writing with my cellphone
mavendark Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Umm, it sounds like first that she rejected you the first time because she already had another guy in mind. And after that relationship ended, she might've been lonely and she sought out your attention and comfort. But then, it really doesn't sound like she likes/loves you the way you love her. Another thing is it seems like you are really smothering her and what you're doing is a bit too much for her. That's a lot for any girl to handle. Stop chasing after her, it's not going to work out for you, and the more you say you love her the further she will go away. I'm sorry to say, but you should just no contact her for a while again. 1
Author Sacro Posted August 14, 2015 Author Posted August 14, 2015 You are right that could be the case. Thanks I would think about it. You think this whole no contact thing from her is just to tell me that I should not try anything with her?
sacg Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Back off dude, or she will run a mile. Dont think about it, move on. If she wants to be around you, she will.
Author Sacro Posted August 14, 2015 Author Posted August 14, 2015 Thats right I'm already trying that. Thanks
Author Sacro Posted August 14, 2015 Author Posted August 14, 2015 But why she didn't told me that she wasn't interested why she kept the situation. I understand that she doesn't wants to see or talk to me because she doesn't want me. But I just can't understand why she acted like that.
Phoenixashes Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 Could be deflecting. Wanted someone else, knows she used you, is feeling guilt and is displacing those emotions on you. I think you were a good fall back guy but she's made a mess of things, knows refuses to face it.
quattrob Posted August 14, 2015 Posted August 14, 2015 But why she didn't told me that she wasn't interested why she kept the situation. I understand that she doesn't wants to see or talk to me because she doesn't want me. But I just can't understand why she acted like that. All that stuff doesnt matter, she's told you more than a few times that she doesnt love you and will not love you just because you love her and she told you she just doesnt want to be with you. You dont need to think of why she acted this way because its pretty clear to me she never liked you from the start, she maybe gave you a chance but realize she cant love you after a short while. Move on dude.. You're being a pest to her. She made her choice and you have to accept it. Leave her alone because you chasing and pleading after her wont make her come back, this will only make her not ever come back and you're just hurting yourself even more. This relationship is over. Accept it and move on. 1
Author Sacro Posted August 14, 2015 Author Posted August 14, 2015 Thanks, I was starting to think the same thing.
Author Sacro Posted August 14, 2015 Author Posted August 14, 2015 All that stuff doesnt matter, she's told you more than a few times that she doesnt love you and will not love you just because you love her and she told you she just doesnt want to be with you. You dont need to think of why she acted this way because its pretty clear to me she never liked you from the start, she maybe gave you a chance but realize she cant love you after a short while. Move on dude.. You're being a pest to her. She made her choice and you have to accept it. Leave her alone because you chasing and pleading after her wont make her come back, this will only make her not ever come back and you're just hurting yourself even more. This relationship is over. Accept it and move on. Yes from today I started a no contact rule. I think its for the best if I let her go. Thanjs for your advice
mightycpa Posted August 15, 2015 Posted August 15, 2015 OK, you don't really need to understand why. What difference does that make? Are you going to try to convince her that her reasons are wrong? Let me explain something to you - that won't work. She's going to do what she's going to do. You can either hang around and watch, or, you can put it out of your sight, which will help you put it out of your mind. That's really all you can do, other than to reject reality. Put this girl behind you.
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